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[deecee]

I've always found that good coaches knew when they reached their limit, especially after I have told them to their face that I've reached my limit to their behavior and antics.

The more inexperienced and/or crappy coaches don't take to such obvious clues and then act surprised when they get T'd up.

In the end if you are at your wits end with a coach let them know. If they continue it shouldn't be a shock that they got a T. I have gone so far a couple times with coaches that act like jerks in Q1 to say "I'm not going to tolerate this behavior for 3 more quarters." I'm not scared to follow that up with a T if/when they push it.

I don't believe in coddling adults. Heck I don't believe in coddling children.

[UNIgiantslayers]

Originally Posted by deecee

I have gone so far a couple times with coaches that act like jerks in Q1 to say "I'm not going to tolerate this behavior for 3 more quarters." I'm not scared to follow that up with a T if/when they push it.

I did that late this season with a coach who notoriously complains/yells all game long. First quarter, loose ball, his kid dives on it and they (he and his ASSistant) wanted a push off on the other kid. The other kid didn´t do anything illegal to that point so I had nothing. Other team player jumps on top of that kid and they both stand up yelling at me. I had hit my whistle to call the foul, but they were so busy yelling that they didn´t hear it. I just said to him ¨Coach, that will be the last time that happens. You and your assistants won´t be raising your voice at me or officiating this game tonight.¨ He acted incredulous and told my partner ¨He can´t talk to me like that.¨ My partner said ¨He can, and he did. You´ve been warned.¨ He was fine the rest of the night.

[#olderthanilook]

Good on you AND your partner for backing you up. The latter (in general) is not always the case.

Originally Posted by UNIgiantslayers

I did that late this season with a coach who notoriously complains/yells all game long. First quarter, loose ball, his kid dives on it and they (he and his ASSistant) wanted a push off on the other kid. The other kid didn´t do anything illegal to that point so I had nothing. Other team player jumps on top of that kid and they both stand up yelling at me. I had hit my whistle to call the foul, but they were so busy yelling that they didn´t hear it. I just said to him ¨Coach, that will be the last time that happens. You and your assistants won´t be raising your voice at me or officiating this game tonight.¨ He acted incredulous and told my partner ¨He can´t talk to me like that.¨ My partner said ¨He can, and he did. You´ve been warned.¨ He was fine the rest of the night.

[SC Official]

Younger coaches, in my experience, are the ones who don't "get it" when it comes to their behavior. They expect to be treated like royalty, act surprised or like they didn't deserve it when they get warned/whacked, say stupid things like "you can't talk to me like that," and take longer to move on after getting stuck. Overall, that demographic is just not as behaved as their older counterparts in my opinion.

We have some young varsity head coaches around here that are some of the worst-behaved coaches that I deal with, and back in my small college days I also dealt with a few young headcase coaches.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by SC Official

Younger coaches, in my experience, are the ones who don't "get it" when it comes to their behavior. They expect to be treated like royalty, act surprised or like they didn't deserve it when they get warned/whacked, say stupid things like "you can't talk to me like that," and take longer to move on after getting stuck. Overall, that demographic is just not as behaved as their older counterparts in my opinion.

We have some young varsity head coaches around here that are some of the worst-behaved coaches that I deal with, and back in my small college days I also dealt with a few young headcase coaches.

I do totally agree that much of the time there are newer coaches that just do not "get it" no matter what you do with them. They not only act entitled but they also act out like and are surprised when we take action.

That being said, there are some older coaches that act out too. And often it is the same older coaches that have issues. But one of the reasons I think this is because the supervisors or administration does not take a stand on their behavior. If we as officials were supported when we take action, a lot of this would stop. But officials often have to think of how to handle a situation that clearly is out of bounds because of the backlash.

Peace