Captains meeting

[Hartsy]

IMO, the captains meeting should be eliminated. No one would notice. Even so, I have the meeting as directed, but keep it light and short. Essentially, I introduce myself and partner/s, have the players do the same, ask them to play hard and have fun, then get them back to their teams.

[Rich]

Originally Posted by Hartsy

IMO, the captains meeting should be eliminated. No one would notice. Even so, I have the meeting as directed, but keep it light and short. Essentially, I introduce myself and partner/s, have the players do the same, ask them to play hard and have fun, then get them back to their teams.

I get a kick out of officials who say, "I am Mr. So and So" cause then I step in and say, "I'm Rich."

[Hartsy]

Originally Posted by RichMSN

I get a kick out of officials who say, "I am Mr. So and So" cause then I step in and say, "I'm Rich."

I've worked with Mr. So and So, too!

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by RichMSN

"I am Mr. So and So".

Originally Posted by Hartsy

I've worked with Mr. So and So, too!

So did I. Terrible. Reaches out from his primary coverage area all the time. I have to carry him every game.

[stiffler3492]

My captains meeting:

Introduce yourselves (if they haven't already. Seems to be pretty common practice in my area.)

Coaches, is everyone properly equipped?
Coaches, are you aware of the concussion protocols?
Coaches, let us know full or :30 on timeouts right away so we can let the other coach know.

Players, sportsmanship is key

(To partner) Got anything?

Good luck.

I don't ask for speaking captains. Like others have said, I can't remember who the captains are 9 times out of ten anyway. I have a hard time remembering coaches' names, so I address every coach as "Coach". I can't be wrong that way. If I have a problem with a player, I will go to a coach.

I have no problem with coaches OR players addressing my by my first name. Maybe this is because I'm a young guy (24), so 95% of the coaches I deal with are several years older than me, and I'm not that much older than the players (though it just hit me that I'm ten years older than this year's freshman class).

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by stifler

I have no problem with coaches or players addressing my by my first name. Maybe this is because I'm a young guy (24).

Coaches and players call me "Grandpa". I wonder why?

[dsqrddgd909]

Mine is quite brief. I ask the coaches if their team is properly equipped, and I tell the coaches and captains we expect good sportsmanship. I do add that when we have a held ball, to please stop fighting for it after the whistle blows. (maybe that's too much?)

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by RichMSN

I get a kick out of officials who say, "I am Mr. So and So" cause then I step in and say, "I'm Rich."

No child is calling me by my first name. I was not raised that way and I do not even call people that were adults when I was a child by their first name. It is a sign of respect and values IMO.

Peace

[zm1283]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

No child is calling me by my first name. I was not raised that way and I do not even call people that were adults when I was a child by their first name. It is a sign of respect and values IMO.

Peace

A sign of your values and what you consider respectful, which is fine. Not everyone shares the same values.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by zm1283

A sign of your values and what you consider respectful, which is fine. Not everyone shares the same values.

I get that, but was commenting only because it sounded like there was something wrong with someone wanting to be referred to by players by their first name. I am not their social equal, they are not calling me by their first name in this setting.

Peace

[bainsey]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

I am not their social equal, they are not calling me by their first name in this setting.

I strongly agree. IMO, there are times where it's okay for a child to call an adult by their first name (based mostly upon familiarity and parental permission), but not when we're officials.

This past fall, I was working a JV soccer game with a partner who wasn't more than 23. He worked a good game, but in the pre-game, he insisted on being called "Jimmy," and was clearly uncomfortable with anything "Mister." At halftime, I pointed out to him the respect for the role, much like those of high/middle school teachers. You can be informal with a teacher, but don't you dare call him by his first name.

[Rich]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

No child is calling me by my first name. I was not raised that way and I do not even call people that were adults when I was a child by their first name. It is a sign of respect and values IMO.

Peace

And when you introduce yourself as "Mr. Rut" I'll say, "and I'm Rich."

My values are different (not better or worse) than yours.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by RichMSN

And when you introduce yourself as "Mr. Rut" I'll say, "and I'm Rich."

My values are different (not better or worse) than yours.

I did not say anything about values being better. I said they are not adults and I was not raised to call adults when I was in HS by their first name. Remember Rich you made the point of what you want them to call you. That is fine with me, but do not make it sound like everyone thinks that is respectful to refer to us by our first names. If that is not the case in other aspects of our society, it certainly is not the case here. No big deal if you want to be called Rich. I even refer to coaches as "Coach....." unless I know both of them very very well, which is rare.

Peace

[Rufus]

We're actually required to ask the coaches if their players are properly equipped and ready to display good sportsmanship. We're also required to get a verbal "Yes" from them in response. Don't know why that's a sticking point here in the Peach State but it is.

[Hartsy]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

I did not say anything about values being better. I said they are not adults and I was not raised to call adults when I was in HS by their first name. Remember Rich you made the point of what you want them to call you. That is fine with me, but do not make it sound like everyone thinks that is respectful to refer to us by our first names. If that is not the case in other aspects of our society, it certainly is not the case here. No big deal if you want to be called Rich. I even refer to coaches as "Coach....." unless I know both of them very very well, which is rare.

Peace

I introduce myself by my first name to the players, but I don't expect to be addressed that way during the game. With coaches I use first/last name. I've never had a player call me by name. Coaches will at at times. Usually it is "Hey, ref" or something of that nature by both coaches and players alike when it is necessary to get my attention. One time it was "Mister Referee Sir".