Captains meeting

[Rich]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

No child is calling me by my first name. I was not raised that way and I do not even call people that were adults when I was a child by their first name. It is a sign of respect and values IMO.

Peace

And when you introduce yourself as "Mr. Rut" I'll say, "and I'm Rich."

My values are different (not better or worse) than yours.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by RichMSN

And when you introduce yourself as "Mr. Rut" I'll say, "and I'm Rich."

My values are different (not better or worse) than yours.

I did not say anything about values being better. I said they are not adults and I was not raised to call adults when I was in HS by their first name. Remember Rich you made the point of what you want them to call you. That is fine with me, but do not make it sound like everyone thinks that is respectful to refer to us by our first names. If that is not the case in other aspects of our society, it certainly is not the case here. No big deal if you want to be called Rich. I even refer to coaches as "Coach....." unless I know both of them very very well, which is rare.

Peace

[Rufus]

We're actually required to ask the coaches if their players are properly equipped and ready to display good sportsmanship. We're also required to get a verbal "Yes" from them in response. Don't know why that's a sticking point here in the Peach State but it is.

[Hartsy]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

I did not say anything about values being better. I said they are not adults and I was not raised to call adults when I was in HS by their first name. Remember Rich you made the point of what you want them to call you. That is fine with me, but do not make it sound like everyone thinks that is respectful to refer to us by our first names. If that is not the case in other aspects of our society, it certainly is not the case here. No big deal if you want to be called Rich. I even refer to coaches as "Coach....." unless I know both of them very very well, which is rare.

Peace

I introduce myself by my first name to the players, but I don't expect to be addressed that way during the game. With coaches I use first/last name. I've never had a player call me by name. Coaches will at at times. Usually it is "Hey, ref" or something of that nature by both coaches and players alike when it is necessary to get my attention. One time it was "Mister Referee Sir".

[Smitty]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

but do not make it sound like everyone thinks that is respectful to refer to us by our first names.

He didn't. At all.

I introduce myself as Dave. All the kids in Texas seem to use the term "Sir" when speaking to the officials, which is also fine with me.

[Raymond]

Originally Posted by RichMSN

And when you introduce yourself as "Mr. Rut" I'll say, "and I'm Rich."

My values are different (not better or worse) than yours.

If your values are no better or worse why do you get a kick out of it?

[mj]

I like to be referred by my first name as I'm not big on titles. I also refer to coaches by their first name but I may be in the minority on doing that in my area. I even look them up prior to the game if I don't know them.


It's what works for me, do what works for you...

[Rich]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

If your values are no better or worse why do you get a kick out of it?

You got me. I think it's stuffy and idiotic. I was being polite.

I've never had a kid use my first name and don't expect to. I wouldn't care if they did, though.

I prefer they respect the shirt by acting the right way on the court. This stuff is just window dressing.

[Raymond]

Originally Posted by RichMSN

You got me. I think it's stuffy and idiotic. I was being polite.

I've never had a kid use my first name and don't expect to. I wouldn't care if they did, though.

I prefer they respect the shirt by acting the right way on the court. This stuff is just window dressing.

Guess I work with a lot of idiotic and stuffy people...who spend 6 out of every 24 months in the Middle East and Southwest Asia or who were raised by stuffy and idiotic parents and grand-parents.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

Guess I work with a lot of idiotic and stuffy people...who spend 6 out of every 24 months in the Middle East and Southwest Asia or who were raised by stuffy and idiotic parents and grand-parents.

Great 5000 post.

Peace

[Rich]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

Guess I work with a lot of idiotic and stuffy people...who spend 6 out of every 24 months in the Middle East and Southwest Asia or who were raised by stuffy and idiotic parents and grand-parents.

Guess so.

[bob jenkins]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

Guess I work with a lot of idiotic and stuffy people...who spend 6 out of every 24 months in the Middle East and Southwest Asia or who were raised by stuffy and idiotic parents and grand-parents.

FWIW, I know idiotic and stuffy people who spend 6 months out of 24 in the Middle East and SW Asia. I do thank them for their service.

I also know sensible people who don't spend any time in the service.

Oh -- put me on the side of "first name" (I don't think a game is the same as a social occasion, so different etiquette rules can apply), but it doesn't bother me either way.