Captains meeting

[zm1283]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

No child is calling me by my first name. I was not raised that way and I do not even call people that were adults when I was a child by their first name. It is a sign of respect and values IMO.

Peace

A sign of your values and what you consider respectful, which is fine. Not everyone shares the same values.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by zm1283

A sign of your values and what you consider respectful, which is fine. Not everyone shares the same values.

I get that, but was commenting only because it sounded like there was something wrong with someone wanting to be referred to by players by their first name. I am not their social equal, they are not calling me by their first name in this setting.

Peace

[bainsey]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

I am not their social equal, they are not calling me by their first name in this setting.

I strongly agree. IMO, there are times where it's okay for a child to call an adult by their first name (based mostly upon familiarity and parental permission), but not when we're officials.

This past fall, I was working a JV soccer game with a partner who wasn't more than 23. He worked a good game, but in the pre-game, he insisted on being called "Jimmy," and was clearly uncomfortable with anything "Mister." At halftime, I pointed out to him the respect for the role, much like those of high/middle school teachers. You can be informal with a teacher, but don't you dare call him by his first name.