Some coaches just dont get it!

[jaybird]

It seems like you ended up deciding the game. If you called the foul like you should have then that team would have lost. You didn't call it and they won.

You are joking, right?
This sounds like a statement that a coach or fan would say.

[jaybird]

Robert Goodman is by far the dumbest person here...do you guys see what he wrote?

I don't know about "the dumbest person", there is at least one other that would get some votes, but what he wrote could qualify as some of the "dumbest statements".
Be prepared for a lengthy rebuttal.

[Welpe]

Originally Posted by jaybird

I don't know about "the dumbest person", there is at least one other that would get some votes, but what he wrote could qualify as some of the "dumbest statements".
Be prepared for a lengthy rebuttal.

I think he's trying to make a point.

[jaybird]

Originally Posted by Welpe

I think he's trying to make a point.

Which would be?

[whitehat]

Well, at least we are generating some discussion about coaches conduct. I hope is it is constructive and helpful. Don't want it to digress into something other than that.

Ajmc, thats good advice. I have not considered the matter much more. Had another game today. Varsity back to back Friday night Sat. afternoon.

Oh yes, flagged a coach this afternoon for disagreeing with a DPI call. He came out on the field about 10 yards, and yelled something about horse excrement and so he got a UC flag. I just shake my head and chuckle sometimes.

Ldub...oh nevermind....

[Texas Aggie]

Constant harassment is grounds for a report in our state. I suggest you do that or find a way to do it if none is readily available.

I almost never have problems with specific complaints, but I never tolerate constant harassment.

[jemiller]

I get what you're saying about the coaches. I had a guy that I've had about 3 times before with about 3 different teams. He always was a jerk, and continues to be. The problem is that he makes his kids become jerks too. I got tired of the whining and finally flagged him for it this weekend. I summed it up as whining fatigue. The accumulation was just too much. He did calm down when I suggested that a 2nd one he would be watching the rest of the game from the bus. It felt so good I wish that I would've done it years before..... First varsity flag in 30 years!

[ajmc]

When you think of it, there's really only two ways coaches cross the line; most often it's a case of emotions getting the best of them and a "look", a brief comment or an explanation will eliminate the problem and avoid the necessity of a flag. Of course if the emotions got too high, the wrong thing was said or the protest lasted "too long", a flag imight be necessary to put everything back in proper perspective.

Then there's the coach who wants to create a scene, it can be for any number of reasons; he might delude himself into thinking it will make a difference, he's trying to intimidate, coerce or take control or he's trying to show off infront of the players, spectators or whomever.

This is a guy whose not making an emotional mistake and will not be shamed into behaving properly by a look, a comment or even the best explanation. This is a guy who wants to wrest control of the game away from you and he will continue to try, until you make him stop . When you decide you're dealing with one of these characters, the longer you wait to take firm control, the longer the problem will worsen. Attempts to exercise reason, tolerance, benefit of the doubt will only serve to, "feed the troll'.

The secret is learning to tell one type coach from the other as soon as possible.

[Robert Goodman]

Originally Posted by ajmc

Then there's the coach who wants to create a scene, it can be for any number of reasons; he might delude himself into thinking it will make a difference, he's trying to intimidate, coerce or take control or he's trying to show off infront of the players, spectators or whomever.

Dammit, a football game is a scene. Everyone who's willfully in the vicinity is there to intimidate, coerce, or show off to one or more other persons. Yeah, there's a contest in there too somewhere with actual skill involved and score kept, but it's not a judicial proceeding. That's why complaints by officials here about complaints about them by a coach to his players, or in another thread about spectators yelling out fouls with the implication that the covering official missed them, make me think some officials just aren't in the right spirit at a game.

People at a game who have even a tangential relationship to it are all instant experts who have (usually temporary) negative opinions that they might express about everyone around them, because all the other people there are morons -- the coaches on both the home and visiting team, players on both teams, some lady in the 3rd row of the bleachers, and of course the officials. If you're in the audience and you don't tell the people around you vociferously what a moron player/coach/official/trainer/hot dog vendor X is, then you're not engaged enough! If you're on the bench and you don't tell your teammates that the coach is a moron for not putting the bunch of you in, you're not engaged enough. Complaining about a 3rd party, rather than to that 3rd party, is a way of expressing solidarity and spirit. And everyone usually understands this is all role playing, and not to take it personally. Once in the Felt Forum at Madison Sq. Garden at a New York Knights Arena Football game I attended, the crowd even briefly broke out in imitation of a TV commercial series then running for beer, one faction yelling in unison, "Less filling!" and the other, "Tastes great!"

You all recognize this. The difference is that I acknowledge it as good fun, while some of you don't. I don't mind your flagging insults directed at an "adversary" (an opponent or official), which helps show you have control of the game, but when you start overhearing things and getting sensitive about people's appearing more expert than you about your jobs, that's where I have a problem. Even if someone intends you to "overhear", the fact that they make a show of directing the insult not at you I think is sufficient deference to show they respect your formal authority, which I believe is all that should be asked.

[ajmc]

Forgive me Robert, for not being quite clear enough. Spectators paid to watch the contest and are the responsibility of game management entirely and are free to behave as however game management requires. Spectators are best totally and completely ignored by game officials, because they are totally irrelevant to our function. Coaches, on the otherhand, like players and officials are actually participants in the contest and have specific duties and responsibilities, included among which, is the requirement to act and behave professionally and in an adult manner.

I wasn't alluding to anyone evaesdropping on sideline conversations or worrying about anyone, "appearing more expert than you about your job" as long as it doesn't undermine my ability to do my job or make a mockery out of the situation, or the game.

If someone is looking for a stage on which to flaunt their individual persona, and wishes to engage a field official as a prop to try and enhance their projection of rules knowledge, they should be doing in from the spectator area, only after they've paid full admission.

[LDUB]

Originally Posted by Robert Goodman

Even if someone intends you to "overhear", the fact that they make a show of directing the insult not at you I think is sufficient deference to show they respect your formal authority

That is just wrong. They are not respecting you. You just said that they are saying insults and intending for you to hear it! How is that respecting you

In reality they are just being a coward and are too afraid to say it to your face.

[bbcof83]

Originally Posted by ajmc

When you think of it, there's really only two ways coaches cross the line...
The secret is learning to tell one type coach from the other as soon as possible.

ajmc, this post will be added to my .doc file called "Tips for Handling Coaches." I add gems like this whenever I come accross one. So thanks. This will be very helpful to me going forward and applies to both sports I work (football and basketball).

[Adam]

Originally Posted by bbcof83

ajmc, this post will be added to my .doc file called "Tips for Handling Coaches." I add gems like this whenever I come accross one. So thanks. This will be very helpful to me going forward and applies to both sports I work (football and basketball).

As of now, I'm strictly a basketball guy, and I agree. This will work well for me, I think.

[LDUB]

Originally Posted by jaybird

Be prepared for a lengthy rebuttal.

Why? I've always considered things said about someone but not directed at that person to be proper decorum, and in some circumstances even a good practice. I don't understand why Robert would want to respond.

[InsideTheStripe]

Originally Posted by LDUB

Why? I've always considered things said about someone but not directed at that person to be proper decorum, and in some circumstances even a good practice. I don't understand why Robert would want to respond.

Nicely done.