Questioning Partner's Call

[Afrosheen]

Originally Posted by BayStateRef

My bottom line to you is simple: Be very, very, very selective in when you decide to offer your partner help. Your overly long post as to the specifics of the play are irrelevant. I will accept that your partner made a mistake. The time to "fix it" is at a timeout or after the game. As the assignor,you have the ultimate ability to fix it: do not assign him any more games.

I have been on both sides of this situation. Very early in my career, I called a violation on the jumper for hitting the ball twice. My partner said and did nothing until after the game, when he told me two taps is legal; three is illegal. I never forgot every part of that: the correct rule and how well my partner handled my error. I try to do the same when I am paired with less experienced officials. I help them (if they want) only at half time and after the game. It works perfectly for us and for the teams. (And yes...I work a lot of AAU games.)

You really need to back off. You were wrong. You were wrong to go to your partner in the first place. You were wrong in both what you said and how you said it. And to be brutally honest, you were wrong to assign him the game, given your knowledge of his work habits.

As for your partner's email....take it with a grain of salt. He clearly does not have the understanding of the full scope of the rules. But he is 100 percent right in his basic point: you cannot overturn his call. And that's what you tried to do at the gym...and what you have tried to do on this forum.

You did not come here for advice or help. You wanted validation for your actions and when you didn't get it, you became annoyed. I suggest you listen a lot more to what is being posted here and type a lot less.

Here is the best example of how not to provide advice to someone soliciting one. You disregard the many posts where I explicitly said that I was wrong in the way that I approach my partner, and with that said, I also stated that I will reconsider it. Here's a link to an example.

But that was not enough you. You needed to come into this thread and whack away with your hammer and point to every instance where you think I was wrong (which seems to include breathing) and then perform a psycho-babble of a post to make yourself feel better than you took five minutes of your day to understand why I'm objecting to people who aren't willing to understand the point of being a crew of officials. And then you have the audacity to tell me to back off after the way you tried to undress me here. It's as the cognitive dissonance shown here is to be seen as a joke. Unfortunately that isn't the case here.

I'm glad that there was a video here shown where an Div 1 NCAA ref goes up to his partner and makes him reconsider the backcourt violation. He showed how calmly he approached his partner and allowed him to make the final call.

Evidently, the people here think to do that is disrespectful. I appreciate that you told me this, but I disagree with it. And it seems that I have ruffled your feathers by saying that I disagree with you, which really isn't a surprise to me.

[Raymond]

Originally Posted by Afrosheen

...Evidently, the people here think to do that is disrespectful. I appreciate that you told me this, but I disagree with it. And it seems that I have ruffled your feathers by saying that I disagree with you, which really isn't a surprise to me.

You seem to be doing a lot of "whacking away" yourself. First you tell me I don't know how AAU works. And repeatedly you've told other posters they don't know how communicate within the confines of this forum. Now to top it off, you make a completely assinine statement that all us of here think the Tom Izzo scenario was handled in a disrepectful manner. The Tom Izzo scenario and you scenario have nothing to do with each other. Plus, in the Tom Izzo play, we see for ourselves how it was handled; in your play we only have your side of the story, which gets modified every time you don't like a response.

[Raymond]

Originally Posted by Afrosheen

Ok, guy, for merely the sake of how you want to go forward, when I issued an apology explicitly saying that I have misled you, I thought we would be able to turn a corner and leave the personal stuff behind us. But if you're going to come back and continue giving such condescending diatribes, what value do you really think you're actually giving that you forcibly want me to accept without question?

Seriously what is your problem dude?

My problem? That you whine so much about "personal attacks" yet have no problem making partonizing a$$ comments like this:

Originally Posted by Afrosheen

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Unfortunately, you don't know how AAU works. Teams pay money to play in these tournaments, ....

What kind of pompous official thinks other officials don't know how AAU basketball works?

[Afrosheen]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

My problem? That you whine so much about "personal attacks" yet have no problem making partonizing a$$ comments like this:



What kind of pompous official thinks other officials don't know how AAU basketball works?

Because you think a bad call in one game isn't as severe as a bad call in another game. Which to me is an insensitive comment to the hard working parents who pay their hard earned money to then invest time during the week practicing to play the games on the weekends. Kids and families plan their lives around these games, and dismissing these games the way you did is a mark of unprofessionalism.

[Raymond]

Originally Posted by Afrosheen

Because you think a bad call in one game isn't as severe as a bad call in another game. Which to me is an insensitive comment to the hard working parents who pay their hard earned money to then invest time during the week practicing to play the games on the weekends. Kids and families plan their lives around these games, and dismissing these games the way you did is a mark of unprofessionalism.

Making excuses about why you don't have pre-games before each of these games is a sign of what? Those games aren't as important or they (and you) would pay officials as much as the more important games. They play in a new tournament every weekend. It is "off-season" basketball. And the fact that you put people that you don't trust on the games shows that you don't think very much of the games yourself.

And still, that has nothing to do with the fact that you said, without knowing me, that I don't know how AAU works. You made a personal assessment of me, yet 1/2 your posts here complain about people making it "personal" towards you.

[The_Rookie]

[QUOTE=Afrosheen;

I'm glad that there was a video here shown where an Div 1 NCAA ref goes up to his partner and makes him reconsider the backcourt violation. He showed how calmly he approached his partner and allowed him to make the final call.

Evidently, the people here think to do that is disrespectful. I appreciate that you told me this, but I disagree with it. And it seems that I have ruffled your feathers by saying that I disagree with you, which really isn't a surprise to me.[/QUOTE]

Mistakes are made at all levels...and I don't think anyone here is advocating not communicating effectively..key word effectively..which means that TIME and PLACE do matter in communications.

Further, there are some really great minds with tons and tons of experience on this blog who are generous with sharing their knowledge and experience. You may not agree with it all and yes some comments include tuff love but realize that its not personal and the goal behind the comments is to be helpful.