To Another Player: "You F***ing Suck."

[HokiePaul]

Originally Posted by Rooster

The bigger dog on the game has college experience and ripped me thusly:
"You don't go with a flagrant there. You try that bulls**t in college and you'll have your games taken away or even get fired. That's just bad."
Smaller dog: "A1's team had travelled two hours to be here. They paid to be here. Let him hang himself and we'll run him with his second T."
etc, etc.

Did this happen during the game (during a timeout or other break)? OR in the locker room after or at halftime?

I've never had an experience where a partner would make a scene and question a call out on the floor -- I guess I've been lucky in that regards. If my partners started questioning a call like that during a game, I'd say something like "let's talk about it at halftime/post game; nothing that can be changed now" and then walk away.

[Rooster]

Originally Posted by HokiePaul

Did this happen during the game (during a timeout or other break)? OR in the locker room after or at halftime?

I've never had an experience where a partner would make a scene and question a call out on the floor -- I guess I've been lucky in that regards. If my partners started questioning a call like that during a game, I'd say something like "let's talk about it at halftime/post game; nothing that can be changed now" and then walk away.

It happened when we got together to discuss next steps. There was some eye rolling and grimacing away from the bench that any official off the court would have noticed but other than that they weren't loud about it or making a scene. I mentioned in an earlier post that I wasn't happy about how they handled it but didn't want to fuss because I'm trying to learn 3 whistle mechanics. As I'm remembering how it went down I did say to both of them "Well I went with a flagrant." and did walk away, so at least I have a little dignity.

[BatteryPowered]

When I first started I was calling a 7th grade girls game. My partner was filling in to help his brother (who assigned the games) and I knew he called lower level D1 games. I called something and during the next time our he started lecturing me on why I should have held my whistle. When he said "In my D1 college games that call would not have been made." I just looked at him and said "And yet you are calling girls junior high B ball...same as me."

He didn't even talk to me the rest of the game he was so hissed off...guess I made my point.

Sounds like you took the important part and are planning to use it. Best you can hope for sometimes.

[BryanV21]

Originally Posted by BatteryPowered

When I first started I was calling a 7th grade girls game. My partner was filling in to help his brother (who assigned the games) and I knew he called lower level D1 games. I called something and during the next time our he started lecturing me on why I should have held my whistle. When he said "In my D1 college games that call would not have been made." I just looked at him and said "And yet you are calling girls junior high B ball...same as me."

He didn't even talk to me the rest of the game he was so hissed off...guess I made my point.

Sounds like you took the important part and are planning to use it. Best you can hope for sometimes.

If somebody has to mention that they officiate higher level games, then I have to question how they came to do those higher level games. It's like what they say about cool people... a person that is truly cool doesn't have to say it.

[HokiePaul]

Originally Posted by Rooster

It happened when we got together to discuss next steps. There was some eye rolling and grimacing away from the bench that any official off the court would have noticed but other than that they weren't loud about it or making a scene. I mentioned in an earlier post that I wasn't happy about how they handled it but didn't want to fuss because I'm trying to learn 3 whistle mechanics. As I'm remembering how it went down I did say to both of them "Well I went with a flagrant." and did walk away, so at least I have a little dignity.

I guess that's about the best way to handle it -- probably just what I would have done like I said. I'd want to know what they thought ... I'd just want to know later after the game when there is more time for a discussion about the play.