coach addressing ref by first name

[Jurassic Referee]

Originally Posted by beachbum

I was talking to my assignor. he actually thought that it's best if the partner takes control of the situation. then it doesn't look like the official being targeted has a vendetta.

So, coach starts yelling about one officials call's and maybe using the first name...partner say's....."whack" your on the bench, don't talk about my partner like that.

And I disagree completely with your assignor too. Doing it that way makes you look like you don't have the testicular fortitude to make the call. The only time your partner should be handing out "T"s for you is if you were out of the hearing range when the coach made a derogatory comment. It's your responsibility to make sure that the game is played in at least a half-azzed sporting manner. You can't slough that responsibility off on your partner.

You're overthinking the hell out of this situation imo. Never worry about vendettas, what anyone else thinks, how much time is left in the game, etc., etc. when you make any call. If someone makes an unsporting, profane, derogatory, etc. comment to you, just call the damn technical foul without bothering to consult with Dr. Phil about it. Call 'em consistently and evenly against both teams for the entire game too. And after you've called it, don't worry about it. Let the players and coaches adjust to your standards. They will.

Everybody has their own idea of what is or isn't a technical foul. And everybody sets their own guideline of when they should call the "T". There's nothing really the matter with that...as long as you are consistent with all players and coaches. Just remember though, you don't get the right to b!tch about a player or coach's behavior if your guidelines allowed that coach or player to act the way you are b!tching about.

JMO.