coach addressing ref by first name

[Raymond]

Originally Posted by HawkeyeCubP

... I'm actually impressed when they can remember the first names of their three officials for that night - although seeing long-time veterans over the course of a regional coaching career makes it easier, I'm sure.
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They have an assistant whose job is to find out the names of the officials and write them down for the H/C so he can call out your name during the game.

[DonInKansas]

Originally Posted by bigdogrunnin

Now, if a visiting coach asks me why he is calling me by my first name, then I introduce myself, and say, "coach, if you want to use my first name too, then you can. Just not in vain."

This pretty much wraps it up for me. I introduce myself with my first name during pregame; if anyone ever gripes about another coach using my first name I'll just reply with "I told you my name too, Coach. You can use it if you like." Besides, there's more than one "ref" on the floor. How else will you know which one they want to get their "T" from?

Coaches are "Coach" to me, but this is because I'm brutally bad with names.

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by Mark Padgett

I worked with a guy whose last name is Cheeseman. When his wife was pregnant, I told him that if it was a boy, they should name the kid "Hammond".

Pregnant women goes into labor at home. Her husband is away on a business trip, so she calls her brother, and asks him to drive her to the hospital. At the hospital, she delivers a healthy baby girl. To thank her brother for coming to her aid, she says that he can name the baby. He quickly replies, "Denise". She says that that's a great name, how did he come up with that name. He replies, "It was easy. If it had been a girl, Denise. If it had been a boy, Denephew".

[beachbum]

Ok guys.... Wednesday, i get the honor of officiating the same coach in another Mid boys varsity game. he is a friend...or was. How would you handle the situation.

Talk to him before the game or just pretend that nothing happened.

My thoughts are to take on the issue and say...Coach we are friends and if you want to call me by name, thats ok. but it is un sportsman like to loudly challenge all of the plays you don't like, I'm trying hard to do the best i can. if you want to ask a question, coach to official, i will answer them.

[williebfree]

Originally Posted by beachbum

Ok guys.... Wednesday, i get the honor of officiating the same coach in another Mid boys varsity game. he is a friend...or was. How would you handle the situation.

Talk to him before the game or just pretend that nothing happened.

My thoughts are to take on the issue and say...Coach we are friends and if you want to call me by name, thats ok. but it is un sportsman like to loudly challenge all of the plays you don't like, I'm trying hard to do the best i can. if you want to ask a question, coach to official, i will answer them.

If you want the same miserable experience you had last time, do nothing.

I sensed a couple things from this and your earlier posts:

1. You are not confident in your rules knowledge and/or lack court presence. These are basic officiating skills which need to improve with each game.

2. You are intimidated by your "friend" who knows he can get the upper hand whenever he challenges you, because (see number 1).

Obviously I do not know the depth of your relationship with this coach, but it seems he thinks its ok to ridicule and abuse you in public. Not the kind of "friends" I would keep.

My recommendation:

If you feel you owe this "friend" the courtesy, tell him before the game that he gets no "special treatment" and if he acts the way he did in the previous game he can expect to be dealt with the same way an other official would handle the situation. If he asks for more details... tell him to not risk finding out.

Bottom line:
Man up and use the rules "tools" that are granted you.

[beachbum]

Everyone likes happy endings!!!!!!!

This morning i ran into the coach that started this thread, by calling me by name in disputing my call's, at a local running event. I smiled and extended my hand and we shook. I said "Roger you can call me by my name whenever you want." he said " I was out of line in that game cause my team was getting blownout and they weren't playing well. Let's not let this get in the way"

It goes to show you how people in general get caught up in the emotion of an event and react. Even Ref's

I'm glad i made the first move!!!!!

[mick]

Originally Posted by beachbum

Everyone likes happy endings!!!!!!!

This morning i ran into the coach that started this thread, by calling me by name in disputing my call's, at a local running event. I smiled and extended my hand and we shook. I said "Roger you can call me by my name whenever you want." he said " I was out of line in that game cause my team was getting blownout and they weren't playing well. Let's not let this get in the way"

It goes to show you how people in general get caught up in the emotion of an event and react. Even Ref's

I'm glad i made the first move!!!!!

[williebfree]

Originally Posted by beachbum

Everyone likes happy endings!!!!!!!

This morning i ran into the coach that started this thread, by calling me by name in disputing my call's, at a local running event. I smiled and extended my hand and we shook. I said "Roger you can call me by my name whenever you want." he said " I was out of line in that game cause my team was getting blownout and they weren't playing well. Let's not let this get in the way"

It goes to show you how people in general get caught up in the emotion of an event and react. Even Ref's

I'm glad i made the first move!!!!!

Well.... let us know how the next game goes... I wish for the best.