Coaches....What can you say?

[Jurassic Referee]

Originally Posted by Terrapins Fan

Today, I go to her before the game a to break the ice and say " Coach if you are going to complain about my officiating, I am going to complain about your coaching" She jumps on me for calls that I made at her husband's game Thursday night.

I could not believe she would behave like this.

I don't really have a question, but I was thinking why would she want to make me angry at her? They won the game by 42, I had no influence on the game. Why not butter me up for this game? I don't get it. I always wanted the officials on my side before the game.

Are you serious, Turtle? Do you really expect coaches to butter you up before a game?

NEVER go and schmooze coaches before a game. Or during a game. Or after a game. Sucking around can never lead to anything that will end up being even remotely advantageous from an official's standpoint. As you found out above, it sureashell can lead to confrontation though. If you want to respond to a coach that wants to banter a little bit, fine, but do not ever initiate sessions like that.

You were directly responsible for that confrontation. If you keep away from the coach except for any info that must be passed along, you won't find yourself in situations like that.

Let the conversations come from the coaches...not vice-versa.

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by Jurassic Referee

Never go and schmooze coaches before a game. Or during a game. Or after a game. Sucking around can never lead to anything that will end up being even remotely advantageous from an official's standpoint. If you want to respond to a coach that wants to banter a little bit, fine, but do not ever initiate sessions like that. Let the conversations come from the coaches, not vice-versa.

Rookie officials: Please take serious note of Jurassic Referee's comments.

Now's the time of year when we often see more than two head coaches in the gym, coaches scouting teams, getting ready for conference, or state, tournaments. When I see a coach in the gym, and if he's anywhere near me, I simply extend my hand for a handshake, and say, "Hello coach, nice to see you". Period. End of discussion.

[Terrapins Fan]

I do know her very well. I would say I have done 20 games for her and see her at all of her husbands games and we speak. This was the first time I officiated her game in 2 years.

Live and learn. Remember, I was a coach once also. 8 years as an offical and 11 years as a coach. I talked to all the officials when I coached and I never said a nasty word before the game and rarely ever after a game.

Thanks for the feed back.

[MadCityRef]

Originally Posted by Terrapins Fan

I do know her very well. I would say I have done 20 games for her and see her at all of her husbands games and we speak. This was the first time I officiated her game in 2 years.

Live and learn. Remember, I was a coach once also. 8 years as an offical and 11 years as a coach. I talked to all the officials when I coached and I never said a nasty word before the game and rarely ever after a game.

A coach wanting to chat me up before a game is very different than me initiating the conversation (which I don't.)

What she heard: "Hey 'coach', you and your hubby were a%%&&&&s last night. If you're one today -and I expect that you will-, I'll take GREAT satisfaction in T'ing you up and tossing you out!"

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by Terrapins Fan

See her at all of her husbands games.

How many does she have ???

[grunewar]

Coaches....What can you say? A lot.

Coaches....What should you say? Very little.

[JugglingReferee]

You cannot misquote silence.

[Kelvin green]

Originally Posted by BillyMac

How many does she have ???

First you spelled the word wrong... it is Mormon,

Second to set the record straight the church banned polygamy in 1896

No difference than over the back, reaching or several other myths debunked on this board

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by Kelvin green

First you spelled the word wrong... it is Mormon,
Second to set the record straight the church banned polygamy in 1896

The title of my post referred to the famous Broadway singer, Ethel Morman.



Aren't there still some Mormons that practice polygomy, however with multiple wives and one husband, rather than one wife and multiple husbands, as I was referring to in the post?

I believe that there's a Utahref on the NFHS forum? Maybe he, or one of his wives, can settle this debate?

[Kelvin green]

As previously mentioned the church banned polygamy in 1896.

There are splinter/fundamentalist groups that practice but it is illegal.

The Utah Constitution bans polygamy as well. It is a crimnal offense although not heavily prosecuted unless sex abuse of a minor involved..

[rainmaker]

Originally Posted by BillyMac

The title of my post referred to the famous Broadway singer, Ethel Morman.

Well, then you still spelled it wrong. Her name is Merman.

Originally Posted by BillyMac

Aren't there still some Mormons that practice polygomy, however with multiple wives and one husband, rather than one wife and multiple husbands, as I was referring to in the post?

One wife and several husbands is called polyandry. One husband and several wives is popularly referred to as polygamy, although it should be called polygyny. Polygamy is the "generic" for either of the two.

Originally Posted by BillyMac

I believe that there's a Utahref on the NFHS forum? Maybe he, or one of his wives, can settle this debate?

Why doesn't KElvin's assertion settle it?

[26 Year Gap]

Originally Posted by BillyMac

The title of my post referred to the famous Broadway singer, Ethel Morman.



Aren't there still some Mormons that practice polygomy, however with multiple wives and one husband, rather than one wife and multiple husbands, as I was referring to in the post?

I believe that there's a Utahref on the NFHS forum? Maybe he, or one of his wives, can settle this debate?

You are getting yourself in the same kind of trouble as the OP.

[BktBallRef]

Originally Posted by Kelvin green

First you spelled the word wrong... it is Mormon,

Second to set the record straight the church banned polygamy in 1896

No difference than over the back, reaching or several other myths debunked on this board

It's no myth that many fundamentalists Mormons still practice polygamy.

[Camron Rust]

Originally Posted by BktBallRef

It's no myth that many fundamentalists Mormons still practice polygamy.

While they (those who practice polygamy) may refer to themselves as Mormons, they're not. The official Mormon church doesn't not tolerate it and will excommunicate anyone who practices it.