Unacceptable comment from coach...

[Bearfanmike20]

Originally Posted by Bad Zebra

Who heard his comments and who witnessed his gesture? If it was just you, file it away in memory. If his team, other team, parents, or table heard or saw him, how could you not whack him? Totally inappropriate, especially in front of middle school girls.

Ever see Saturday Night Live episode with Merv the Perv? That's what this story sounds like.

My officiating partner saw it, but they know each other and when I talked to him about it he said that he understood what I was saying, but that the guy was just joking around.

[ace]

if its still eating you after a night of sleep, write a respectful letter to the AD, then let it go.

[bigdogrunnin]

Several years ago, while officiating a JVB game, ball goes OOB. I say loudly, "Blue Balls . . . ahem, I mean Blue's Ball!" A few smiles and chuckles and off we go. From that point forward I say a color. That is all.

As for the coaches comment . . . let it go. Next time it happens, kindly let the coach know that it offends you, if it does. Do I think it was inappropriate? Yes.

[Bearfanmike20]

Originally Posted by ace

if its still eating you after a night of sleep, write a respectful letter to the AD, then let it go.

I talked to the AD last night. I let him know that one of his coaches made that remark, but I (conveniently) forgot which one.

I figured that would be a happy medium. The AD can generally adress the issue, but no body gets fired or punished.

Seems like a win win.

[wanja]

In a situation like this, before reporting a coach to an AD I would consider finding an opportunity to talk to the coach. Letting the coach know that you get the humor but that it is inappropriate might do the trick. The coach could have simply made a dumb mistake and might even thank you for bringing it to his attention.

[Adam]

"Sorry, coach. I'll talk to your wife about it next time she comes over."

[Mark Padgett]

Maybe next time you have a game in that gym, you should bring this album and have it played during warmups.

[WhistlesAndStripes]

Is this comment any less problematic to anyone if it happens in a boys game instead?