I let my partner down.

[jeremy341a]

Partner 1 gives t to coach for complaining in quarter 1 Partner 2 gives t to player on same team in 4th quarter. With 2 min to go and down 25. Coach says as I'm walking away. You and partner 1 should have worked the game by yourselves. I didn't pull the trigger and now regret it. I should have stood up for my partner. Confession over.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by jeremy341a

Partner 1 gives t to coach for complaining in quarter 1 Partner 2 gives t to player on same team in 4th quarter. With 2 min to go and down 25. Coach says as I'm walking away. You and partner 1 should have worked the game by yourselves. I didn't pull the trigger and now regret it. I should have stood up for my partner. Confession over.

As an E-8 once asked me following a particularly embarrasing incident, "Lesson learned?"

[jeremy341a]

So much in fact I have spent all day working on a time machine.

[Mark Padgett]

Originally Posted by jeremy341a

So much in fact I have spent all day working on a time machine.

[DerekTall]

I know the feeling. I've actually never given a technical foul, even though there were times I considered it. I always try and be tolerant in order to maintain a flow to the game, but sometimes I feel like I let players/coaches get away with to much.

[Welpe]

I can't relive this again. The FB group is going to give me a stroke.

I said a lot on there but I will say this, I passed on a T in a similar circumstance (though it would've been the first) and I've regretted it to this day.

[Rob1968]

What your partner does'nt know will not haunt him/her. Perhaps your feelings of regret are best overcome by resolving to learn from that instance, and adjust your determination to handle such a case differently, in the future. That is the way we go through life -

circumstance -- re-action -- evaluation -- adjustment -- commitment --
new circumstance -- new re-action -- evaluation --

and on it goes. There is great satisfaction in experiencing a more favorable outcome the second time. Don't be so hard on yourself.

A couple years ago someone on this forum told me that the only techs you remember are the ones you regret calling. I took this to heart and called a shit ton of techs that year. I've calmed down somewhat but there are still a couple from this year that are nagging at me.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by DerekTall

I know the feeling. I've actually never given a technical foul, even though there were times I considered it. I always try and be tolerant in order to maintain a flow to the game, but sometimes I feel like I let players/coaches get away with to much.

I've had more conversations with assigners about technical fouls that should have been called, but weren't, than I have had about technical fouls I called that I shouldn't have (I've actually had zero of these conversations).

Around here, bad coaching behavior often makes its way back to the assigner, and this comment is no different.

[Rich]

I've been on the court for 4 head coach technicals this season. I've called one myself. Two of the other ones were called by partners who were in a better position than me to call them, but they were well deserved. The fourth may not have happened if the places on the floor were switched and I was in front of the coach, but the coach pushed a partner's button just the right way and paid for it.

A friend who also officiates simply can't understand that -- he's called one in 15 years. Thinks it's all so unnecessary. Wonders how our games are different than his.

The response from one of my regular partners was just perfect:

"No different than any other game. We just don't put up with bullshit."

(That said, I hadn't called one in 3 years before the one I called earlier this season. I don't run out there looking for them, but I don't miss too many, either.)

[BoomerSooner]

Originally Posted by Mark Padgett

Reminds of one of my all-time favorite time machine related lines:

What do we need? A time machine.
When do we need it? Irrelevant.

I'm not sure if this was from a movie, but a coworker said it to me and I laughed at that for rest of the day.

[jeremy341a]

Originally Posted by Rob1968

What your partner does'nt know will not haunt him/her. Perhaps your feelings of regret are best overcome by resolving to learn from that instance, and adjust your determination to handle such a case differently, in the future. That is the way we go through life -

circumstance -- re-action -- evaluation -- adjustment -- commitment --
new circumstance -- new re-action -- evaluation --

and on it goes. There is great satisfaction in experiencing a more favorable outcome the second time. Don't be so hard on yourself.

I told him and apologized after the game.

[jeremy341a]

Originally Posted by Welpe

I can't relive this again. The FB group is going to give me a stroke.

There are many conversations on there that amaze me. I bet I've read "he wasn't set" on there 100 times this month.

[Rob1968]

Originally Posted by jeremy341a

I told him and apologized after the game.

Well done!

[buffafox]

I had a situation like this where I gave the coach the benefit of the doubt. If i see a coach that I officiated before, I will always say it's nice to see you again and it seems to lighten the mood. However, my partner, who is a really nice guy, was having some difficulty making and defending his calls. Even I was surprised by some of them.

This coach started getting really upset and in order to try and diffuse the situation, I would force switches and worked on calming him down. Well, eventually I had to give him a warning. He was cussing and calling my partner every name in the book. I could have T'd him up right there but I held off.

My partner made another call and this coach walked on the floor. I knew my partner was going to T him up. He called it, and I immediately gave him the ball to administer the technical and I went to this coach and told him I warned him. He was still yelling at me and my partner for the next game said for me to toss him, which I didn't.

I don't regret not calling a technical or tossing him. I was actually praised by my elevator who I didn't know was there in how I handled the situation. I feel bad that i didn't defend my partner more but I made sure I supported him, even if there were some bad calls.