I let my partner down.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by buffafox

I had a situation like this where I gave the coach the benefit of the doubt. If i see a coach that I officiated before, I will always say it's nice to see you again and it seems to lighten the mood. However, my partner, who is a really nice guy, was having some difficulty making and defending his calls. Even I was surprised by some of them.

This coach started getting really upset and in order to try and diffuse the situation, I would force switches and worked on calming him down. Well, eventually I had to give him a warning. He was cussing and calling my partner every name in the book. I could have T'd him up right there but I held off.

My partner made another call and this coach walked on the floor. I knew my partner was going to T him up. He called it, and I immediately gave him the ball to administer the technical and I went to this coach and told him I warned him. He was still yelling at me and my partner for the next game said for me to toss him, which I didn't.

I don't regret not calling a technical or tossing him. I was actually praised by my elevator who I didn't know was there in how I handled the situation. I feel bad that i didn't defend my partner more but I made sure I supported him, even if there were some bad calls.

The coach was cursing your partner out, in your ear, and you didn't call the T?

OK

[Mark Padgett]

Originally Posted by buffafox

I was actually praised by my elevator

So you knew the right buttons to push?

[VaTerp]

Originally Posted by buffafox

I had a situation like this where I gave the coach the benefit of the doubt. If i see a coach that I officiated before, I will always say it's nice to see you again and it seems to lighten the mood. However, my partner, who is a really nice guy, was having some difficulty making and defending his calls. Even I was surprised by some of them.

This coach started getting really upset and in order to try and diffuse the situation, I would force switches and worked on calming him down. Well, eventually I had to give him a warning. He was cussing and calling my partner every name in the book. I could have T'd him up right there but I held off.

My partner made another call and this coach walked on the floor. I knew my partner was going to T him up. He called it, and I immediately gave him the ball to administer the technical and I went to this coach and told him I warned him. He was still yelling at me and my partner for the next game said for me to toss him, which I didn't.

I don't regret not calling a technical or tossing him. I was actually praised by my elevator who I didn't know was there in how I handled the situation. I feel bad that i didn't defend my partner more but I made sure I supported him, even if there were some bad calls.

I may be in the minority here but a coaches singular comment from the OP of "you and your partner should have worked this by yourselves" would not necessarily be an automatic T for me. Depending on the game/coach/partner I may ignore it or simply say something like, "coach we're not going to do that."

However, if a coach is cursing a partner in your ear and "calling him every name in the book" then I think you really have to address and penalize such behavior.

And I pre-game that when we stick a coach, we all need to get and stay away in that moment. Nothing good comes out of talking to a coach in that situation IMO. If you warned him he already knows that. He also knows he has lost his box. I've seen other officials going to chat with a coach after a partner has stuck him and it further escalate the situation resulting in, IMO, quick avoidable ejections or the appearance that the non calling official is the shoulder to cry/lean on. Again, IMO nothing good comes from going over to talk to a coach after a partner Ts him.