Dwelling on calls

[bainsey]

Long story short, I had a fashion police issue today that I had to deal with, and I allowed the whole thing to rattle me and jar my focus. I was even grumpy about it when I got home.

We all have work to do, and we all choose our reactions. Focus is a choice, too. Don't let anything rattle it on the court, especially the stupid stuff.

[stiffler3492]

Originally Posted by bainsey

Long story short, I had a fashion police issue today that I had to deal with, and I allowed the whole thing to rattle me and jar my focus. I was even grumpy about it when I got home.

We all have work to do, and we all choose our reactions. Focus is a choice, too. Don't let anything rattle it on the court, especially the stupid stuff.

Care to elaborate? Don't want the thread to get too far off topic, so maybe start a new thread?

[bob jenkins]

Originally Posted by stiffler3492

Care to elaborate? Don't want the thread to get too far off topic, so maybe start a new thread?

Yes, please do. Of all the things that could cause an official to get "rattled", being the fashion police would fall way down the list, I would think.

[VaTerp]

I have gotten pretty good at being able to move on after a bad call but this past Wednesday I had a bad GAME that is still in my head.

Frankly, it's probably the worst game I can remember. No major rules gaffes or anything that I think changed the rightful outcome of the game but just an overall poor job. The Home coach, who ended up winning, was chirpy throughout the game. At one point in the 3rd he said, "you're calling this ticky tack stuff but then not calling what really needs to be called." I just thought to myself, "You're right coach, I've been AWFUL tonite."

I tried self talk and a few other mental excercises but for whatever reason I just could not get into the game mentally. Very dissapointing because I'm at the stage in my career where I feel like I'm really ready to take it to the next level. But this game was just awful and it's still in my head 2 days later.

Fortunately I get back on the court tonight and will move past this but it's still disturbing that I had a whole game that I'm dwelling on. Anyone else have one of those nights where you just couldnt get it going at all?

[Raymond]

Originally Posted by VaTerp

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Fortunately I get back on the court tonight and will move past this but it's still disturbing that I had a whole game that I'm dwelling on. Anyone else have one of those nights where you just couldnt get it going at all?

I remember having just a horrible half one time. But neither coach seemed to notice as I got no flak that I can remember. And talking to my partners after the game neither had any plays that stuck out to them. But I knew I sucked and that mentally I had went in the tank the 2nd half.

Just up'd my concentration level for the following game.

[VaTerp]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

I remember having just a horrible half one time. But neither coach seemed to notice as I got no flak that I can remember. And talking to my partners after the game neither had any plays that stuck out to them. But I knew I sucked and that mentally I had went in the tank the 2nd half.

Just up'd my concentration level for the following game.

Yeah, most of us are our own worst critics and post game both of my partners said they didnt notice anything bad nor did the losing coach say a single word throughout the game.

It is about concentration and mental focus and Wednesday night was the first time that I can remember where I was just out of it for basically an entire game. I'm sure it's happened to me before during some weekend or summer ball but not in a scholastic game.

[Scuba_ref]

Did you have a good pre-game? I know that often helps set the tone for me.

[Loudwhistle2]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

I remember having just a horrible half one time. But neither coach seemed to notice as I got no flak that I can remember. And talking to my partners after the game neither had any plays that stuck out to them. But I knew I sucked and that mentally I had went in the tank the 2nd half.

Just up'd my concentration level for the following game.

For me I have found that I need to be plenty early for any game I do. Last year I came in late (only 30 minutes before game time) and it upset my whole mood. Felt like I was behind the eight ball the whole time.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by Loudwhistle2

For me I have found that I need to be plenty early for any game I do. Last year I came in late (only 30 minutes before game time) and it upset my whole mood. Felt like I was behind the eight ball the whole time.

Two years ago, I had a game where I walked in at about game time (car accident on the freeway). The association president, there early for the next game, was getting dressed to replace me if need be. We had about a 30 second pregame, and I was out of sorts the whole game.

I was back in that gym last night (incidental detail), and worked with two partners who had just done the freshmen game in front of me. The R did a good job of taking a few extra minutes between games to make sure we had a decent pregame.

I've also found that being out of the car for a while, with time to get into the mindset, is helpful even if the pre-game is less than stellar.

[VaTerp]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

I remember having just a horrible half one time. But neither coach seemed to notice as I got no flak that I can remember. And talking to my partners after the game neither had any plays that stuck out to them. But I knew I sucked and that mentally I had went in the tank the 2nd half.

Just up'd my concentration level for the following game.

Had a BF/BV double tonite.

Drove to the game feeling very mentally prepared and then I got a call from my boss 30 minutes before the BF tip that really ticked me off on work related issues.

Rather than let it distract me just used it to up my concentration level even more and feel like I nailed both games tonight. The V game was a 25 point blow out but both teams competed the whole game and there was about as much of a rythm and flow as possible for a game with that kind of margin.

Really feel goods about the games this evening and am thanful to this board for allowing me the opportunity for "therapy" from typing and reading some of the responses. Thanks!

[bainsey]

Originally Posted by bob jenkins

Of all the things that could cause an official to get "rattled", being the fashion police would fall way down the list, I would think.

Fair enough. It was more about having to deal with this stuff repeatedly with the same team/coach, and the indignant reply when I tried to cut that team a little slack.

Home team in green, visitors in blue. (In this state, white jerseys are only required for home varsity teams.) Both teams had at least one white undershirt. I spoke with the home coach about his lone offender, and it was taken care of without incident.

Visitors had warm-ups on during pre-game, so I didn't see the two white undershirts until a few minutes into the game. (They were sleeveless, but they were visible at the neckline. I already had to deal with this same issue with this team a few weeks ago. Rather than remove those two immediately, I thought I'd cut them a little slack, and told the visiting coach to take care of it at the end of the first quarter. The coach just gave me an indignant "whatever," twice.

"Whatever" is a pet peeve of mine. (I've said before that "whatever" is for stupid teenage girls.) I allow the kids to finish the quarter, and I get the clean version of "screw you"?! Plenty other schools understand that the undershirt's color must match that of the jersey, like it or not. (My son's coach doesn't even allow undershirts, headbands, etc.) Apparently, this coach thinks he can duck rules he deems stupid.

The fact that I allowed it to get to me and rattle my focus for the rest of the half is on me. In the grand scheme of things, this is far from major. While I didn't react overtly, I still chose poorly internally. Fashion police stuff is a PITA, but I'll likely have to deal with it again. If I don't deal with it, I'm just making it messier for the next guy.

[Adam]

So did he deal with it?

If you've had them do this before and had to deal with it then, I'd be less inclined to let them wait. Send them off and tell the coach he needs some subs.

[bainsey]

Originally Posted by Snaqwells

So did he deal with it?

Affirmative. The two rushed to the locker room and were back out for the second quarter.

[bob jenkins]

If I have an issue with a team, then the next time I have the team I check (or at least ask) during the pre-game.

And, it might be helpful to let your association know, so all can check / enforce. That way, the team doesn't think "it's just you."

(I'm assuming that the white neckline is enofrced in your area.)