After game situation

[Ref_in_Alberta]

Originally Posted by youngref33

I was wondering if I handled this situation correctly?

Working an AAU tournament.
One team is more aggressive and reaching all the time.
Parents and coaching are saying I am being bias to one team.
I my opinion I was not.

After the game..two parents preceded to come up to my partner and myself I complain about me being bias. My partner supporting me the whole time, one of the parents turned to me and said "you know what you should do?"
I turned to him and said "sir, I really don't care what your opinion is"
Then he proceeds to tell me that I would care if "we took this outside". I looked to him and said "real mature sir" and walked away.

Talking to another official, he told me I was the professional and handled it wrong.
Any suggestions on how to handle dumb situations like this?

Best thing to do in these situations, IMHO (and others already) is not to engage. Having said that...

- I have in the past suggested that if the person questioning my officiating come to our rookie clinic in the fall and start refereeing because our local board is always looking for referees and their expertise would be awesome.

- "tell you what sir/ma'am, I'll let you critique my preformance if I can critique yours and your son/daughter's preformance afterwards... I'll be just as honest and forthwright as I'm sure you're about to..."

- good ole "Thank You." and keep on walking works...

- I had a partner one night respond to a parent who had made a comment on how bad we were say "Well sir, we may of been bad but at least we weren't 25 points bad..."

Originally Posted by youngref33

Then he proceeds to tell me that I would care if "we took this outside".

"Sure... if I'm not there in 5 minutes, start without me."
Then proceed to call your local law enforcement and have the jacka$$ arrested for uttering threats...

But like I said, along with others the best way to deal with this situation is to walk away from it and not get involved.

My 2 cents...