Very inappropriate comments from fans and how to address

[CMHCoachNRef]

Originally Posted by 26 Year Gap

Big difference from the OP's complaint. BIG difference.

How is it different if someone calls me a Mick or a Big Hitler or a Nazi? Why is that different than the OP? Because of the color of my skin? These are still slurs. Or should these slurs be treated differently for some reason? They are still inappropriate. I still maintain that blocking out such commentary is the most effective.

But, once again, I understand that I am in the minority, here.

[Chess Ref]

Originally Posted by CMHCoachNRef

How is it different if someone calls me a Mick or a Big Hitler or a Nazi? Why is that different than the OP? Because of the color of my skin? These are still slurs. Or should these slurs be treated differently for some reason? They are still inappropriate. I still maintain that blocking out such commentary is the most effective.

But, once again, I understand that I am in the minority, here.

Gonna fall on the side of getting game management involved.

As an aside I have had fans call me "ELvis". But I take that as a compliment. And no I don't look like the fat,drugged out Elvis,I look like the good looking younger version.

Once had a student section chant "Elvis sucks" . It was music to my ears.

[just another ref]

Originally Posted by Chess Ref

Gonna fall on the side of getting game management involved.

As an aside I have had fans call me "ELvis". But I take that as a compliment. And no I don't look like the fat,drugged out Elvis,I look like the good looking younger version.

Once had a student section chant "Elvis sucks" . It was music to my ears.

I've been asked twice at the same school, don't know if it was the same guy, if I'd ever been told I look like Chuck Norris. I wasn't offended, but I imagine Chuck would be.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by just another ref

I've been asked twice at the same school, don't know if it was the same guy, if I'd ever been told I look like Chuck Norris. I wasn't offended, but I imagine Chuck would be.

Tell them you are Chuck Norris, you'll get far less grief.

[Ignats75]

Originally Posted by just another ref

I've been asked twice at the same school, don't know if it was the same guy, if I'd ever been told I look like Chuck Norris. I wasn't offended, but I imagine Chuck would be.

Tell them no but you taught him how to fight.

[cardinalfan]

Chuck Norris wouldn't just call a violation. He would prevent it from ever happening again.

[cardinalfan]

A few years ago, a small rural school. Older man in overalls on the front row tells me I need to "help my boy", speaking of one of my partners... a young black man.
At halftime, my partner asked me why I let him make a racial comment like that. I was a little embarrassed that I had taken it to mean he was young and inexperienced.
Dead ball in the second half. I'm in C, right in front of the old man. This time he says, "You should know better than to bring one of them with you".
Told the school administrator I wanted him gone.
He got a round of applause as he left... I got hammered the rest of the night... it was worth it.

[grunewar]

As I read these posts I just find it utterly incredible that we are even talking about these types of situations in 2009! Amazing, in a sad way. I hope I never have to deal with it. But, as always, the Forum has given me food for thought in case I do.

[just another ref]

Originally Posted by cardinalfan

A few years ago, a small rural school. Older man in overalls on the front row tells me I need to "help my boy", speaking of one of my partners... a young black man.
At halftime, my partner asked me why I let him make a racial comment like that. I was a little embarrassed that I had taken it to mean he was young and inexperienced.

I don't blame you for not assuming the worst. Years ago around here most schools got just whoever to call jr. high games, basically anyone who would put on a whistle, with no affiliation with any officiating group. One year I was the senior member of a team at age twenty-something, frequently accompanied by a protege who was about nineteen at the time. I think at first fans honestly took a "He doesn't know any better approach," to the kid. I told my young partner I would be glad when he got old enough that people would give him his own criticism instead of piling it all on me. It was a gradual process. After reading me a list of my own shortcomings on the way out one night, one lady added a postscript: "And your boy was bad, too!"
For the record, all parties involved in the story are white.

Many fans truly know no prejudice when it comes to basketball officials.

"There is no racial bigotry here............ Here you are all equally worthless."**


**Gunnery Sergeant Hartman Full Metal Jacket

[Adam]

Originally Posted by cardinalfan

A few years ago, a small rural school. Older man in overalls on the front row tells me I need to "help my boy", speaking of one of my partners... a young black man.
At halftime, my partner asked me why I let him make a racial comment like that. I was a little embarrassed that I had taken it to mean he was young and inexperienced.

I was in basic training before I found out "boy" was an epithet. I grew up in a small farm town in the middle of Iowa; our only minorities were a Laotian family. It wasn't that I used the term ignorantly, I had never even heard it used in that way.

One guy (a black guy from Montgomery, AL) in our flight took offense when another guy called him a boy (the initial comment may have been innocent, I don't know). After things calmed down a bit, I learned a lesson on southern racial history.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by CMHCoachNRef

How is it different if someone calls me a Mick or a Big Hitler or a Nazi? Why is that different than the OP? Because of the color of my skin? These are still slurs. Or should these slurs be treated differently for some reason? They are still inappropriate. I still maintain that blocking out such commentary is the most effective.

But, once again, I understand that I am in the minority, here.

Those are racial slurs and will earn a quick ticket to the outdoors. If they harp on my weight, eye sight, foot size, hair color, or whatever, I'm fine. Don't get into race, though. Riots don't start from arguments about foot size. They do come from racial arguments, though.

BTW, racial slurs fit into your category 1.