what does a ref think when a player argues or talks?

[echo]

Having only been at this a short time, As a player I always wanted to know what I did wrong. It only helped my game. I noticed every ref had his own distinct style and pet peas. Now, as a ref, I try and allow the players to do the same. I understand now why the ref would usually start explaining his call (during the dead ball) but would abruptly end the conversation when the ball was back in play.
I can only speak for me here, ask you question, but do it respectively, accept the answer and play on. I hold no grudges. I make the call, pay the piper, and move onto the next portion of the game.