what does a ref think when a player argues or talks?

[Doug]

I don't care who you are, if you come to me with respect, proper timing, and an appropriate question, I will give you a honest and proper anwser. I give a player credit for asking in certain situations. The player knows they did something, and if they want to know what they did so they can correct it, i have the utmost respect for them. That is taking inisitive and being a good ball player. No matter what you do, i won't hold a grudge against you. A lot of officials do, but in order to someday be considered a "great" official, you have to treat everyone the same.