what does a ref think when a player argues or talks?

[rockyroad]

I personally have no problems with a player who wants to have a call explained or wants to discuss a call - as long as that player is as respectful to me as I am to him/her...also, as a player you need to realize that I don't have a lot of time to just stand and talk, and I certainly am not going to respond pleasantly to someone who is not pleasant to me...as far as a "grudge" or "getting even" - doesn't happen with me...if I need to T you, I will, and then the game goes on...