Assistant Kneeling

[bob jenkins]

Originally Posted by BryanV21

Thank you all so much for the replies. I always feel bad when my partner has to deal with something that I initiated (of course, the AC actually initiated the situation, but by choosing not to ignore it when it wasn't a "big" problem I took part in things). So I needed the assurance that this situation was not something I created out of nothing.

I think you were right to address it, but I think the way you did it could be better. "Coach, I appreciate that you are just trying to coach your player, but I need you to do that from the bench, please, so I can work here."

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by bob jenkins

"Coach, I appreciate that you are just trying to coach your player, but I need you to do that from the bench, please, so I can work here."

Tart words make no friends; a spoonful of honey will catch more flies than a gallon of vinegar. (Benjamin Franklin)

[JRutledge]

You can say all the nice words and there are coaches that will completely argue with you. So I do not spend a lot of time trying to be nice. "Coach you cannot be there, you must sit as you do not have coaching box privileges."

We had a kid last night that was bleeding and was bleeding on his mask. When we noticed this we told the coach the player had to be replaced. He was given a new mask and thought he could stay. I had to tell the coach, we need a sub for blood on a player. He sent the player back to the table and the table blew the horn and the player came back in. I sent the kid back and told the coach, "He has to sit until the clock runs." All the coach did was give me blowback and all I told him was the rule.

You can be nice to these guys and direct and they still will make an issue out of stuff. This idea of being nice is a fallacy. It does not solve everything if the participants think they know better than you do.

Peace

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

... kid last night that was bleeding a ... told the coach the player had to be replaced ... "He has to sit until the clock runs." ...

... or get him back in immediately (assuming blood issue is dealt with quickly) with a timeout.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by BillyMac

... or get him back in immediately (assuming blood issue is dealt with quickly) with a timeout.

I do not think he wanted a timeout. He clearly did not know the rule. But once we remove notice the blood, he has to be removed appropriately even if it is not his own blood. But it was a nose bleed it appeared.

Peace

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

He clearly did not know the rule.

Agree. Been there. Done that.

They sometimes have to be "reminded", "Coach, you can keep him in with a timeout, or he has to sit a tick of the clock".

I have to use this a lot in my middle school games, but also had to use it occasionally back in my pre-arthritis varsity days.

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

You can be nice to these guys and direct and they still will make an issue out of stuff. This idea of being nice is a fallacy.

Different coaches. Different officials. Different ways of interacting. Do whatever works. Sometimes a stick. Sometimes a carrot. Sometimes something else.