Parent blows up

[WhistlesAndStripes]

Originally Posted by BigT

AAU 8th grade boys game. Good referees. W11 goes up out of control and hits defender and falls badly on his ankle. PC called, coach comes out, parent comes from the stands. Dad takes some cheap shots with a final F.. you comment.

What would you do? T the team? Site management remove parent? Both? Nothing...?

This is a "had to be there" sitch, but the way you describe it, I'm whacking the coach based on his own reaction. I'm seriously considering a Team T for the behavior of the parent, but that may be mitigated if someone from the team or game management was making an effort to stop him or get him out of there. And we are DEFINITELY not continuing until the parent has been removed from the gym.

[SNIPERBBB]

Originally Posted by Whistles & Stripes

This is a "had to be there" sitch, but the way you describe it, I'm whacking the coach based on his own reaction. I'm seriously considering a Team T for the behavior of the parent, but that may be mitigated if someone from the team or game management was making an effort to stop him or get him out of there. And we are DEFINITELY not continuing until the parent has been removed from the gym.

What did the coach do in the OP? Coach can come onto the floor to tend to an injured player. Unless the coach wants to make smart remarks to you instead of tensing to the player, you can then whack coach.

[UNIgiantslayers]

AAU parent on the floor? I'd consider suspending the game and leaving the floor until my next scheduled game. My guess is the rest of the parents are going to be yelling about it for the rest of the game, and I wouldn't exactly feel very safe.

[BigT]

Coach did nothing but take care of the kid. Dad is the only one going at the referees and the only one F bombing.

[WhistlesAndStripes]

Originally Posted by SNIPERBBB

What did the coach do in the OP? Coach can come onto the floor to tend to an injured player. Unless the coach wants to make smart remarks to you instead of tensing to the player, you can then whack coach.

Originally Posted by BigT

Coach did nothing but take care of the kid. Dad is the only one going at the referees and the only one F bombing.

OK, I made a bad assumption. I assumed the coach came out to berate the officials. If he just came out to take care of his player, I've got nothing on him.

[BigT]

Originally Posted by Whistles & Stripes

OK, I made a bad assumption. I assumed the coach came out to berate the officials. If he just came out to take care of his player, I've got nothing on him.

KK,

That was my fault. Cant believe the things that happen in AAU here and got typing too fast.

[LRZ]

FWIW, I'm in the "kick out and ban the parent, don't penalize the [probably mortified] kid" school.

[BigT]

I was in the camp of don't punish the kid. After having a parent wanting to assault me in the parking lot last month and the City Attorney not wanting to do anything I am all for the kid leaving with the parent. That feels like it will stop the behavior. Just leaving a gym where they hate the referees anyway doesnt feel like it will change any behavior.

[Nevadaref]

Originally Posted by BigT

Coach did nothing but take care of the kid. Dad is the only one going at the referees and the only one F bombing.

Parent ejection, Team technical foul, and in my area we have a rule that if a parent gets tossed the kid leaves with him. The last part was put in a few years ago and really helps control these fools.

[bas2456]

Originally Posted by Nevadaref

Parent ejection, Team technical foul, and in my area we have a rule that if a parent gets tossed the kid leaves with him. The last part was put in a few years ago and really helps control these fools.

I'm glad that last part works in your area. Seems like a harsh punishment for a kid that (probably) did nothing wrong

[BigCat]

Originally Posted by Nevadaref

Parent ejection, Team technical foul, and in my area we have a rule that if a parent gets tossed the kid leaves with him. The last part was put in a few years ago and really helps control these fools.

I'm sure that works most of the time BUT...I'd ask you to remember kids don't get to choose their parents....

[Nevadaref]

Originally Posted by BigCat

I'm sure that works most of the time BUT...I'd ask you to remember kids don't get to choose their parents....

Understand that this isn't my rule. It was created by the people who run the local AAU tournaments because they had too many problems with parent behavior. All of the AAU games are pay-to-play, so they simply decided to have the kid lose the playing time that the parents paid for as penalty for the poor actions. It was actually a brilliant idea as it hits the people in the pocket book. I can tell you that parent behavior improved greatly after the rule was implemented.

[deecee]

Originally Posted by BigCat

I'm sure that works most of the time BUT...I'd ask you to remember kids don't get to choose their parents....

And I don't do this for the kids (even though all the benevolent parents and coaches do). I personally like the rule.

[BigCat]

Originally Posted by deecee

And I don't do this for the kids (even though all the benevolent parents and coaches do). I personally like the rule.

The entire free world knows you dont do this for the kids...isnt necessary for you to repeat it twice a week...As for the rule, i'm sure it works but i think tossing the idiot parent and suspending/banning him from games would work just as well.