Mechanics

[ASA/NYSSOBLUE]

Originally Posted by BlueDevilRef

Stopping the game, listening and giving professional responses to questions, with rules based knowledge should be indication enough that I'm paying attention and giving him due consideration.

Some of these things are just another way for someone to be offended which have nothing to do with offensive behavior. But that's just me, I'm one that lets kids and coaches call me by my first name and I know that really sets others off and they patently do not allow it. I don't see that as respect or lack there of either.

I'm not thrilled with the being called by the first name thing, a certain lack of professionalism there....One thing I do is call the girls 'ladies' instead of 'girls' - gives the players a certain amount of respect, I believe.

If you want to do a sport where the powers that be have arrogance, try volleyball. Their pre and post game mechanics are terrible as far as talking to the coaches and players are concerned. I, and most of my fellow ignore them anyways, but still....

A lot of officials - especially the leadership - tend to forget that sportsmanship is a two way street.

[EsqUmp]

Originally Posted by ASA/NYSSOBLUE

I'm not thrilled with the being called by the first name thing, a certain lack of professionalism there....One thing I do is call the girls 'ladies' instead of 'girls' - gives the players a certain amount of respect, I believe.

If you want to do a sport where the powers that be have arrogance, try volleyball. Their pre and post game mechanics are terrible as far as talking to the coaches and players are concerned. I, and most of my fellow ignore them anyways, but still....

A lot of officials - especially the leadership - tend to forget that sportsmanship is a two way street.

What do you ask to be called by then?

[ASA/NYSSOBLUE]

Originally Posted by EsqUmp

What do you ask to be called by then?

My first name is Lou(ie) - the first several games I ever worked x number of years ago, I couldn't understand why the guys (unaffiliated Sunday league) knew my name - until a partner started laughing and pointed out they were calling me BLUE.....

[CecilOne]

Originally Posted by ASA/NYSSOBLUE

I..One thing I do is call the girls 'ladies' instead of 'girls' - gives the players a certain amount of respect, I believe.
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I think "ladies" is patronizing, especially teens and under, maybe condescending. There is nothing wrong with the accurate word for young females.

[Dakota]

As far as sunglasses are concerned, most person to person communication is non-verbal, and eye-to-eye contact is a part of that. I don't want to be perceived as this guy,

so, I take my sunglasses off (when I remember... ).

As far as how I am addressed, I prefer to keep a demeanor of approchable yet professionial. In most games, it doesn't really matter that much, but in certain games (e.g. between rivals, in the high school playoffs, in championship tournaments), appearing to be too familiar with one side and not the other can lead to issues.