Coach refuses to shake hands

[Adam]

Originally Posted by j51969

I made a general statment that wasn't directed at anyone in particular. Why you and Adam took such offense to an opinion, which I am entitled to is beyond me. However, the highlighted words are yours not mine.

I had to go back and reread what I wrote that made you think I took offense to your opinion. Your opinion that I took exception to (I wasn't offended) is below:

1. You think others are taking this sort of thing personally. I disagree. One doesn't have to take it personal to deal with unsporting or childish behavior from a coach.

2. You implicitly accuse others of selling their integrity. I simply find that insinuation to be absurd.

Originally Posted by j51969

FWIW,

I am not treating him any differently than the other coach. I don't take any of this personally even if others may. We are all human, but if I am going to sell my integrity it will be for a HELL of a lot more than a basketball game (at any level). I guess in these situations you will find the left and right limits of your .

[j51969]

Originally Posted by Adam

I had to go back and reread what I wrote that made you think I took offense to your opinion. Your opinion that I took exception to (I wasn't offended) is below:

1. You think others are taking this sort of thing personally. I disagree. One doesn't have to take it personal to deal with unsporting or childish behavior from a coach.

2. You implicitly accuse others of selling their integrity. I simply find that insinuation to be absurd.

Agree to disagree,

However, the mere fact my general comment garnered this much attention implies some may be putting way more thought into one simple act than needed. I said I wouldn't sell my integrity over this. I also said I wouldn’t take it personally. Some of the opposing comments seemed to take it personal. There are about a dozen or so who seem to respond to the majority of the post on this site. Many times when someone else disagrees, or is in the minority on an issue the piling on ensues. Previous posts over the years you seem to be a very passionate and competent official. If I may not offer an open opinion without offending you in some way maybe you have lost your perspective and objectivity.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by j51969

Agree to disagree,

However, the mere fact my general comment garnered this much attention implies some may be putting way more thought into one simple act than needed. I said I wouldn't sell my integrity over this. I also said I wouldn’t take it personally. Some of the opposing comments seemed to take it personal. There are about a dozen or so who seem to respond to the majority of the post on this site. Many times when someone else disagrees, or is in the minority on an issue the piling on ensues. Previous posts over the years you seem to be a very passionate and competent official. If I may not offer an open opinion without offending you in some way maybe you have lost your perspective and objectivity.

What did I say that implies I was offended? Can I not disagree with your opinion without you thinking I'm offended by it?
I think the idea that those who would address his disrespect are somehow selling out their integrity is absurd, but I'm not offended by it?

As for taking it personal, this thread was dead for two weeks before you resurrected it. That's why I had to go back and read what I wrote.