Coach refuses to shake hands

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by BktBallRef

Ignore it. Work the game as you would any other. Be the bigger man.

Agree 100%.

[JRutledge]

Tell him I refuse to answer any questions because of his display when he is asking a question and move on. Then see how all that works out for him.

Peace

[Rich]

I may not explicitly say this to the coach, but that would end my communication for the game. And the rope would be really, really short.

[Rich1]

Do nothing different. If he wants to hold a grudge over a basketball game and behave immaturely then its on him. I'll call the game the same either way. Be professional, answer questions, make calls, and interact with him and his team just like you would if you had never met before. I also use this same philosophy when I have a coach or team that is "rumored" to be difficult. I may be more aware but I won't go in looking for problems.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by Rich1

Do nothing different. If he wants to hold a grudge over a basketball game and behave immaturely then its on him. I'll call the game the same either way. Be professional, answer questions, make calls, and interact with him and his team just like you would if you had never met before. I also use this same philosophy when I have a coach or team that is "rumored" to be difficult. I may be more aware but I won't go in looking for problems.

You can be professional and tell a coach "what's up." They just decided to do something much earlier. I would not disrespect a coach, but he certainly would know why I feel the way I do. He would have to apologize, but I would not just not talk to a coach and he not know why. That is the ultimate disrespect to refuse to shake someone's hand and do so publicly. If this was any other profession, I would stop doing business with them or report it to them to the higher ups. I just have to deal with them for at most a couple of hours and then I go home. Coaches need to know their behavior has consequences.

Peace

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

... report it to the higher ups.

Good idea. Here, in my little corner of Connecticut, the procedure would be to report the situation to our assigner, who would contact the school's athletic director.

[bainsey]

I would do nothing at the time, but keep it in the back of my head that he may become problematic.

[j51969]

Originally Posted by JRutledge

You can be professional and tell a coach "what's up." They just decided to do something much earlier. I would not disrespect a coach, but he certainly would know why I feel the way I do. He would have to apologize, but I would not just not talk to a coach and he not know why. That is the ultimate disrespect to refuse to shake someone's hand and do so publicly. If this was any other profession, I would stop doing business with them or report it to them to the higher ups. I just have to deal with them for at most a couple of hours and then I go home. Coaches need to know their behavior has consequences.
Peace

I made a general statment that wasn't directed at anyone in particular. Why you and Adam took such offense to an opinion, which I am entitled to is beyond me. However, the highlighted words are yours not mine.

[JRutledge]

Originally Posted by j51969

I made a general statment that wasn't directed at anyone in particular. Why you and Adam took such offense to an opinion, which I am entitled to is beyond me. However, the highlighted words are yours not mine.

Who said anything about taking it personally? I am just commenting on the situation. It is my opinion. If you wish to do something different than that is OK. Often I do not care what others do anyway because there is more than one way to skin a cat. If what you are doing works for you, that is OK with me.

I feel we have the right to tell coaches the truth. And if he did not shake my hand, he would know why I am not talking to him after that fact. He will learn one way or the other.

Peace