Dishonest Coach

[26 Year Gap]

Originally Posted by splitveer

Just thought I would get everyone's thoughts on this. I have been working basketball at the varsity level for about 20 years now and have never run across this situation.

BV game 1st quarter and coach is in my ear about a call. He is not animated but his tone is sarcastic and arrogant to say the least. I address his question in a professional way and he definately does not agree. This is the end of it. Part ways, let him know it is over, and move on.

A couple more trips down the floor he addresses me again. He didn't listen, but maybe he will hear the whistle you just sounded to give him a T.At this point I try the nice guy approach and say politely I don't think I missed it, but you never know. No big deal. usually this approach gets the coach thinking this guy is pretty honest and calms them down. Nope...not this guy....he gets after me If you haven't already taken care of it by now, it will only get worse.and says you did miss it. I address him a little more Why?firmly and let him know we are going into not a very good place with his words.

Time out comes later in the quarter and my partner informs me that the coach said I addressed him and told him since he is yelling at me I will not call a fair game for him anymore. It never would have gotten this far, because if you had issued the T, your partner could have sent him out to listen to the rest of the game on his car radio. I never even came close to saying those words.

So, time out ends and approach the coach and say "I am going to say this as professionally as possible. My partner tells me you don't think I am going to call a fair game and this is what I told you" This has turned into the technical foul you wish you had called earlier.
He skirts the comment, and tries to make it sound like he was saying something else. I end the conversation with letting him know that anything else will not be tolerated.Why should he believe you?
Anyone else out there have a coach tell a partner a flat out lie about a conversation you had? How would you have handled this differently?

Thanks for the responses!

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[JetMetFan]

Originally Posted by 26 Year Gap

See above.

Yep. That's what I was thinking through the entire OP. Once the coach starts going down that road, it's "coach, that's enough" then a T. The more we engage that type of nonsense, the more trouble we cause for ourselves.