Can I give my partner a T??? (long)

[Adam]

No, it doesn't make you a bad guy.

"I understand your frustration" = "You're right but let me handle it." He may well have been right, but you telling him that is not the right thing to do, IMO.

And for the record, saying that to a coach within earshot of an already emotional partner is likely to shut down discussion in the locker room. Right or not, it's human nature to get defensive at that point.

I stand by my earlier remedy:

Originally Posted by Snaqwells

"Coach, you've said your piece. It's time to move on." That's his warning; after that he gets the T.

It's neutral, it acknowledges the coach has a problem without giving credence or overly backing a partner who has just screwed up.

[Judtech]

Originally Posted by Snaqwells

No, it doesn't make you a bad guy.

"I understand your frustration" = "You're right but let me handle it." He may well have been right, but you telling him that is not the right thing to do, IMO.

And for the record, saying that to a coach within earshot of an already emotional partner is likely to shut down discussion in the locker room. Right or not, it's human nature to get defensive at that point.

I stand by my earlier remedy:



It's neutral, it acknowledges the coach has a problem without giving credence or overly backing a partner who has just screwed up.

But what if you said "Coach, you have said your peace?" Would that change things.
However, this is a good way to handle it. I think we can all agree that there is no need for an official to raise their voice at a coach. It also goes back to the "3 team" theory - Home Team, Away Team and OUR team. Obviously, the official needed some correction in his methods and handling that at halftime is a great way to do it. Sort of that whole "Blessed are the peace makers" thing!

[Adam]

Originally Posted by Judtech

But what if you said "Coach, you have said your peace?" Would that change things.

Most coaches wouldn't know the difference; especially with my particular accent.