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First I don't recall "bragging" about mentoring. I have said, just like others here, that I enjoy helping young officials. The difference in this guy and EVERY other new official I have worked with is that he acted as if he was the veteran with nothing to learn and nothing that needed changing. I have been doing this 20 years and still realize I can learn and improve.
BTW my assigner called me today about him. Seems the game administrator witnessed the confrontation and was not happy with neither the coach or my partner and called the assigner. The assignedr said this was not the first complaint he had received about the guy this year and would be reviewing whether he uses him in the future. He said the only reason he got the game Saturday was he was the only one close and available with such short notice He also got onto me for not issuing the coach a T. I told him under the circumstances I felt it would have made the sitaution worse. He said he would have HTBT to know for sure but felt he would have issued one. Last edited by RobbyinTN; Mon Feb 07, 2011 at 12:26pm. |
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I only heard the exchange at the table, I did not hear anything the coach said to him prior to that. I don't know if there were comments or not - I know I didn't hear a peep out of the coach directed at me during the first two periods.
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Simple: Did the coach earn it or not? 95 times out of 100, it will make the situation better if it was an earned T. It doesn't mean the T shouldn't have been given the other 5, though. And just because the situation got better on its own does not mean the right decision was made by not giving a T, either. As for whether you were "bragging," that's for you to decide; but you've mentioned it multiple times along with how long you've been working. I've got nothing against that per se, and just because it didn't work with this guy doesn't mean anything.
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As has been pointed out, this guy needs to be trained on how to deal with coaches. If it's been tried already, then perhaps he does need to be discarded. But there are ramifications far beyond this one official for throwing a partner under the bus. Guess what this coach is going to do the next time he senses a less experienced official working with a seasoned mentor.
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I guess I don't see where "I understand your frustration, let me handle this" is throwing my partner under the bus. He kept asking me "do you understand why I am upset?" Not in a loud tone or demanding tone but obviously a frustrated tone
Had I said "you know coach you are right, you deserve better officiating than you are getting from this guy but he is a rookie so cut him some slack and he is an idiot for yelling at you, so I will make sure he never officiates again" - that would be throwing him under the bus. Obviously most here think that makes me a bad guy but so be it Last edited by RobbyinTN; Mon Feb 07, 2011 at 01:18pm. |
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No, it doesn't make you a bad guy.
"I understand your frustration" = "You're right but let me handle it." He may well have been right, but you telling him that is not the right thing to do, IMO. And for the record, saying that to a coach within earshot of an already emotional partner is likely to shut down discussion in the locker room. Right or not, it's human nature to get defensive at that point. I stand by my earlier remedy: It's neutral, it acknowledges the coach has a problem without giving credence or overly backing a partner who has just screwed up.
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However, this is a good way to handle it. I think we can all agree that there is no need for an official to raise their voice at a coach. It also goes back to the "3 team" theory - Home Team, Away Team and OUR team. Obviously, the official needed some correction in his methods and handling that at halftime is a great way to do it. Sort of that whole "Blessed are the peace makers" thing! |
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And it's up to us to try and teach the inexperienced officials if we want to keep them around. They will make mistakes; that's part of their learning process. Every one of us went through that back in the day. But it's a little much imo when you get it from both sides publically when you make a mistake. It changes a learning experience into a confrontation where the new official has no one in his corner trying to help him out.
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