T's and Coaches Actions

[Freddy]

Originally Posted by Refsmitty

Has it always been that way?

As long as I can remember (back to the mid-70's), yes. Though it does seem to be increasing in beligerence and intensity lately.

Originally Posted by Refsmitty

Comments... how do I calm my frustrations?

Re. the coaches: As Snaqs suggested, and as was mentioned here a while ago, they might have the last word, but you have the last action. And if they have another last word after that, you've been issued an action that will halt it for the night.
In a sense, you and I are in the behavior modification business. Don't let their ill behavior get you down. (Unless you're really a cruddy official who should be looking for another avocation, which I doubt). If they cross the line, calmly take care of business. No need to get frustrated. You've been given the tools to use, when necessary.
Re. the fans: It becomes easy over time to ignore vocalized bias and passion fueled by favoritism, doesn't it? Just take it for what it is, and learn to ignore it. Your professionalism will carry the day long after the echos of their idiocy have faded away.