Flagrant T or not?

[Berkut]

The other night in a boys JV game, my partner gave a T to the home bench after an assistant had something to say to him.

I asked what happened at half time, and he said the assistant started barking at him about a call, and he told the head coach that he would listen to him, but he needs to control his bench and we would not be listening to assistants.

The HC tells the assistant (with the ref standing right there) that he needs to be quiet, and the assistant says "I won't sit here and let him cheat our kids!".

My partner whacks him, and life goes on.

Now, after the game, I was thinking about this, and we were debating whether the comment was worthy of a ejection on its own. I lean towards the philosophy that you can maybe get away with questioning my judgment, but for an assistant (or anyone for that matter) to accuse me of cheating is beyond the pale, and warrants a trip to the locker room.

On the other hand, the T worked, to the extent that the assistant shut up for the rest of the game, so maybe a flagrant would be going above and beyond.