coach addressing ref by first name

[williebfree]

Originally Posted by beachbum

Ok guys.... Wednesday, i get the honor of officiating the same coach in another Mid boys varsity game. he is a friend...or was. How would you handle the situation.

Talk to him before the game or just pretend that nothing happened.

My thoughts are to take on the issue and say...Coach we are friends and if you want to call me by name, thats ok. but it is un sportsman like to loudly challenge all of the plays you don't like, I'm trying hard to do the best i can. if you want to ask a question, coach to official, i will answer them.

If you want the same miserable experience you had last time, do nothing.

I sensed a couple things from this and your earlier posts:

1. You are not confident in your rules knowledge and/or lack court presence. These are basic officiating skills which need to improve with each game.

2. You are intimidated by your "friend" who knows he can get the upper hand whenever he challenges you, because (see number 1).

Obviously I do not know the depth of your relationship with this coach, but it seems he thinks its ok to ridicule and abuse you in public. Not the kind of "friends" I would keep.

My recommendation:

If you feel you owe this "friend" the courtesy, tell him before the game that he gets no "special treatment" and if he acts the way he did in the previous game he can expect to be dealt with the same way an other official would handle the situation. If he asks for more details... tell him to not risk finding out.

Bottom line:
Man up and use the rules "tools" that are granted you.