Playing Officials

[grunewar]

I have a similar situation as a coach and official. When I notice some of the guys I ref with blow a call or misapply a rule - I try to be your typical coach asking for the call, coaching and raising my voice from the box, hinting they missed something, talking to them briefly at half or after the game, etc. But, I never cross the line and REALLY get after them as it's "wreck" ball and I want to set the proper example for the kids as an adult, parent, coach, and official. And, I make it a point to shake the refs hands and thank them for doing the game - regardless of what I think.

Now, as was alluded to by others, you win or lose on the floor, not by a blown or missed call. I may talk to them later, but none of these guys are HS Officials or receive much training and they are there for different reasons than you and me....and sometimes don't take suggestions well or even care.

[Kingsman1288]

Originally Posted by grunewar

Now, as was alluded to by others, you win or lose on the floor, not by a blown or missed call. I may talk to them later, but none of these guys are HS Officials or receive much training and they are there for different reasons than you and me....and sometimes don't take suggestions well or even care.

This crew was made up of two HS Officials. I called 3 games with one of them last season, so they should know better. My team won the game, so I'm not mad I lost. Just everyone knew I was an official and was coming up to me to complain about them.

[slow whistle]

just my 2 cents, but i would not touch this, just play and don't say a word. unless they ask for your advice at some point, the downside to saying anything (potential for damaged reputation within your association, etc) far outweighs the upside (better officiated rec league game????) in my opinion....ultimately you have to decide what is more important to you i guess....as my boss often says "is that the hill you want to die on?"

[grunewar]

I certainly understand. What did they expect you to do? Talk to the refs? Plead your case? Argue? Question their calls? Get a T? What? You've got to be bigger than the situation and keep a level head. "Guys, I understand your frustration. I'm frustrated too. There's not much I can do about it here. Let's just go out there and have some fun and do our best. OK?"

(Yes, I have my rose colored glasses on).