Partner and ejected coach start to get personal.

[NURef]

If finally happened...my first double T and ejection. But what happened after that was a breakdown/failure on our part as officials. Please comment.

Situation:
Number 1 girls HS team in the state taking on local power house in a NCAA sanctioned varsity tourney game...probably 20 colleges in attendance...the place was packed.

The #1 HS coach is up by 20 with 13 minutes to play (20 minute halves). I have given the #1 coach a warning to stay in his box and stop complaining about calls...my partner is aware that the next outburst is going to be a T.
Time-out called after #1 fouls whereby the #1 coach yells "That's just the type of call I expected form you guys...". My partner issues the T and I confront the coach to explain he's got to sit. The coach comes unglued and yells, "you guys suck...you're terrible" as he's walking toward us. I issue the next T and report while my partner switches to inform the coach he must leave the gym. Now comes the crazy part...for me anyway. Get this, my daughter (Remember the conflict of interest post) is keeping score and has a front row seat to the whole thing.

I turn around and my partner and the head coach are about 1/2 inch away from each other’s face and conducting a major pissing contest. My partner tells the coach that he's a terrible coach and that he's also ugly...the coach is saying more things about how he sucks and is the worst official he's ever seen.... they are not having a quiet conversation. Again, I've never been in this situation but I could see they were getting close to something that was more than likely going to get worse.

So, I stepped between then slowly touching each others chest with the back of my hands...I'm 6'4" 200 and work out 5 days a week so maybe that helped my confidence...but a good official told me once to never touch/grab a player or coach so I was trying to do the best I could.

I said firmly "This conversation is over! We have parents, players and other coaches watching us right now. You must leave the court" The coach says fine I'm taking my team with me. I said, "You mean you're going to take this opportunity away from not only your players but the other team's players...I'm disappointed in you". I walked over to the administrator to ask him to go talk some sense into the coach...I guess after pleas from his assistant and his players that he finally said okay. Needless to say he marches out into the hall and called everyone he could to complain...wanted us kicked out of the tournament. I was told that he was still mad 24 hours...honestly he deserved his T's.

I'm thinking maybe I issued the second T too quickly (Do you folks give coaches an opportunity to blow-off steam after the first T?) and that my partner should not have engaged in the name calling...etc. but he's been around awhile and he “doesn't take crap from anyone”. I was the good cop but I have to admit I could see me drop kicking this coach out of the building.

So how would you have handled this situation? Should I send a report? I've already done a verbal debrief to the tourney director and my assignor? By the way, the #1 coach is a very very good coach and he looks like a young Richard Gere...so the ugly part doesn't apply either.