TO granted while ball in air during pass?

[Junker]

Early this year I had a good 4A girl's matchup. In the second half, I had some light pressure and a little 2 on 2 bringing the ball up the court as T. The gym was loud as hell. I hear "time out" from the home bench. By the time I can look at the bench, the head coach is just standing there, doing nothing. I pull out my whistle and ask if he wants a TO. He does nothing. I ask again, and just as he starts to confirm that he did indeed want the TO, the ball is stripped and we go the other way for a lay up. Next possession he did get his time out. I tried to explain what happened, but he was being a jerk about it so I walked away. I was with 2 of the best officials in our area (if not the state) that night and somehow I was rotated away from him for most of the game.