Help with: "Hey! I'm A Mentor!"

[Scrapper1]

Pat, here are a few thoughts. I won't be offended if you think they're completely off-base, but for what it's worth. . .

1) Wearing an IAABO patch doesn't make a bad ref into a good one. IAABO is a training organization and that's it. They do a lot of good things, in my opinion, but they don't work miracles. Having said that, this guy has been working for that assignor for several years, so he's probably doing something right, at least in that assignor's eyes. It might be worth your while to consider that maybe he does know what the assignor wants and take some of those tips for your own game.

2) The comments that you list don't sound particularly "destructive" to me (although there has to be a better way of saying, "you shouldn't have made that call"). His comments may be well-intentioned (and good advice), but just offered in a clumsy way. Maybe not. Maybe when you hear him in person, he's just a jerk. But I would urge you to listen to the message and not the delivery. Take what works for you and ignore the rest.

3) I think you are right to be worried about "ruffling feathers". Even if he's a complete a-hole, you don't want to go around making that information public. It can come back to haunt you. If you come to the conclusion that he's an idiot and you're just going to ignore everything he says, fine; but don't talk about that decision with other refs. Just work your game and ignore his tips.

Good luck.

[Jurassic Referee]

What Scrappy said.

Whether the old ref is an IAABO member or not is completely irrelevant, unless there's some politics involved that we're not aware of.

[M&M Guy]

Scrappy, you are truly wise beyond your years. It's too bad you're a Yankee fan. I could've swore you were a Cubs fan.

One of the toughest things I had to face as I was moving up was criticism. I mean, after all, I'm getting better games, why should I have to listen to someone telling me what I'm doing wrong? They're probably criticizing me because they don't want me to take away their games, right? Well, as I've progressed, I've started to impart some of my limited wisdom on younger refs, and I've encountered a little of the same "resistance". But, in my case, I'm not worried about them taking my games, I'm more worried about making them a little better in the game we're working now. Since I can see it from their point of view, I try to temper the message a little, so it doesn't come across as straight criticism.

Does that mean this guy wasn't a jerk? Don't know, because I wasn't there. But if he's going through the effort of giving you advice, maybe there's something there to take? You don't have to listen to everything, but I would bet he gave you something good to use.

[PAT THE REF]

Thanks everyone... I try to take and use his information to my use... Most of it is very practical... I just dont like being approached every quarter and in that particular manner. It is hard to write about it on paper.

Pat

[Junker]

As you keep working, you'll be evaluated in a number of different styles. This particular person seems to dwell on the negative. I remember a 3 person clinic I was working a few years ago. At one end was an assignor I don't work for ripping me a new one about all the contact I was letting go away from the ball, which to me was stuff we let go all season. At the other end was an evaluator from my area that had seen me before. He's over there telling me I look great and just keep doing what I'm doing. There isn't really one correct way to officiate. There are many things we all need to do on a consistent basis, but parts of the game are going to be different for each official because of their experience and personality. Take any information you get and use it to make yourself better. One thing that has helped me over the years is when an evaluator gives you a bit of information, put it into your game right away. When you're getting feedback every quarter, make sure you do exactly what they asked you to as soon as you see a similar play in the next quarter. This shows that you're willing to listen and learn.

[Jurassic Referee]

Originally Posted by Junker

I remember a 3 person clinic I was working a few years ago. At one end was an assignor I don't work for ripping me a new one about all the contact I was letting go away from the ball, which to me was stuff we let go all season. At the other end was an evaluator from my area that had seen me before. He's over there telling me I look great and just keep doing what I'm doing.

Gee, there's a tough choice.

Nod your head "yes" to both of them. Listen to the one that gives you games.

Which is what you did, I'll bet......

[Junker]

Originally Posted by Jurassic Referee

Gee, there's a tough choice.

Nod your head "yes" to both of them. Listen to the one that gives you games.

Which is what you did, I'll bet......

That's exactly what I did.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by Jurassic Referee

Gee, there's a tough choice.

Nod your head "yes" to both of them. Listen to the one that gives you games.

Which is what you did, I'll bet......

I was talking in pregame with a newer partner last week (first year guy) about all the advice he's been getting from vets so far. I told him, "If the guy tells you to pi$$ on the half court line, just nod your head like you understand and ignore it later."

[Junker]

My mentor moved to Colorado where he now instructs new officials to p#ss on the floor.

[Jurassic Referee]

Originally Posted by M&M Guy

Scrappy, you are truly wise beyond your years. It's too bad you're a Yankee fan. I could've swore you were a Cubs fan.

Scrapper flunked the entrance exam to become a Cubbies' fan. He passed an IQ test. The IQ test was to spell "IQ".

[26 Year Gap]

[QUOTE=M&M Guy]Scrappy, you are truly wise beyond your years. It's too bad you're a Yankee fan. I could've sworn you were a Cubs fan.

[M&M Guy]

Originally Posted by 26 Year Gap

I swore I would never swear at Mr. Annoying Spelling Guy. I have sworn off that promise.

*$^"(@ *(^# !