What should you do about bad parenting?

[26 Year Gap]

Originally Posted by dblref

I had something similar happen a couple of years ago during a summer league game (non-AAU) when a young lady (about 12-13 years old) missed the first of 2 free throws and her mom yelled at her to "get her head in the game". It was really quite in the gym and the player put the ball on the floor, turned to her mom and said "if you think it's so easy, why don't you come down here and do it, otherwise, SHUT UP!" I hate to think of the conversation in the car on the way home. BTW, the mom never said a word after that.

Come on and tell us. Did the 2nd one go in?

[Mregor]

Originally Posted by Dan_ref

Seriously Folks,

What can officials do about it? What is the right approach?

Quit working those games.

Mregor

[kiwiref]

I think that the problem is not going to get any better in the future. Just ignoring the idiots will work to a certain extent, but eventually they will see the lack of action from the officials as a tacit approval for their behaviour, and things will start getting worse. This means that the very nature of how we manage the game will have to be slightly modified.
Here's what I would like to suggest. Establish a code of conduct for for parents, and make it very clear that breaches will result in eviction from the venue. Second, make the home team responsible for enforcing the rules. Any breach that is not being dealt with appropriately will lead to forfeit of the game at the discretion of the referees, and a possible financial fine later on. Yes, this would mean that the home team will have to organise security arrangements to be able to deal with idiots. But that's a small price to pay compared to the cost of an increased number of referees refusing to work certain areas/associations/schools etc. Also, we are already struggling to recruit new referees in many sports because young people do not want to put up with the abuse they are witnessing. So, I say time to clear up.

[REFVA]

Here's what I would like to suggest. Establish a code of conduct for for parents, and make it very clear that breaches will result in eviction from the venue. Second, make the home team responsible for enforcing the rules. Any breach that is not being dealt with appropriately will lead to forfeit of the game at the discretion of the referees, and a possible financial fine later on. Yes, this would mean that the home team will have to organise security arrangements to be able to deal with idiots. But that's a small price to pay compared to the cost of an increased number of referees refusing to work certain areas/associations/schools etc. Also, we are already struggling to recruit new referees in many sports because young people do not want to put up with the abuse they are witnessing. So, I say time to clear up.

Amen! How do we officials enforce to get that in place

[dave30]

I have had a kid apologize to me for the actions of his Dad. That was pretty cool.

[Back In The Saddle]

Originally Posted by dave30

I have had a kid apologize to me for the actions of his Dad. That was pretty cool.

I've had that too.

[swvaref]

I had situation with a AAU game (16 and up) A1 going to basket on a`still partner had foul Im under basket A1 had a few words with the other player I would not give him his freethrows until he dropped the attitude. During a timeout the coached got his explanation and was thankful. After the game the kid and his parent apoligized the parent was more thankful than the kid was