What should you do about bad parenting? - Page 2

deecee · #16 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 01:45pm

you could always join the local parent association and find out the intracasies of being a parent. After all its not science but an art.

You can also learn how we get to learn the rules and how we apply them in the stands and also the philosophy behind our knowledge behind the game. If you need help finding your local parent association please let me know I should be able to help at least with my territory in alaska.

M&M Guy · #17 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 01:51pm

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Originally Posted by deecee

you could always join the local parent association and find out the intracasies of being a parent. After all its not science but an art.

Can't I just read this book and become a parent?

Jurassic Referee · #18 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 02:03pm

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Originally Posted by M&M Guy

I get it.

That relates to the preceding "guillotine" thingy, right? They're both about giving head.

For a minute there, I thought that you mighta been going off-topic.....but you're OK.

26 Year Gap · #19 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 03:56pm

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Originally Posted by garote

I've actually thrown 4 fathers out of AAU games because of their behavior this year.

One of the gyms we have the games at, has 2 sets of bleachers and there is about a 20 foot gap between them for the table. For some unknown reason the top of the bleachers is the spot for these idiots. I'll invariably get 2 dad's shouting or better yet threatening each other across the gap. So I stop play chuck them and go merrily on my way with the game.

On one occasion I had a coach ask "aren't you afraid they'll go at it in the parking lot??"

Don't know why I just want to bust up laughing at that?

And the answer is: "No. I am afraid they won't."

26 Year Gap · #20 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 04:02pm

I did notice that smurf [the poor man's Barney] did not reply in his thread, so he must me all set now.

Back In The Saddle · #21 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 04:03pm

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Originally Posted by M&M Guy

Simple solution:

I thought these were only authorized for use in FIBA games.

Bad Zebra · #22 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 04:04pm

Has anyone had the opportunity to clear a gym of everyone except the coaches, players and table personnel? Our local officials have done it several times in the past few years during AAU tournaments. Surprisingly effective when it seems parents have lost all perspective in the stands and sanity becomes a scarce commodity.

Mark Dexter · #23 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 05:24pm

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Originally Posted by Bad Zebra

Has anyone had the opportunity to clear a gym of everyone except the coaches, players and table personnel? Our local officials have done it several times in the past few years during AAU tournaments. Surprisingly effective when it seems parents have lost all perspective in the stands and sanity becomes a scarce commodity.

My town's rec department (winter ball) got to the point where they threatened to do this. The next season, the local IAABO board refused to ref their games.

I've learned to just ignore parents, with my only acknowledgement being perhaps a little internal chuckle when I hear the stupid things they say. I was confronted by a parent once after a game; I just gave a quick answer and moved on - probably shouldn't have said anything.

Stan · #24 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 09:23pm

Maybe this can shed some light on the subject.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/artic...12-000010.html

Stan

refnrev · #25 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 10:52pm

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Originally Posted by JRutledge

This is one of the funniest posts I have seen in a long time.

I needed that laugh.

Peace

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Actually, Rut, i have to disagree with you. I think it's one of the saddest because it is so true!

ChrisSportsFan · #26 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 10:56pm

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Originally Posted by tjones1

Dang, I'm in luck. I believe that will fit in my gear bag. What ya think M&M?

Just take a roll of Duct Tape. It's lighter and doesn't make as much mess.

refnrev · #27 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 11:03pm

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Originally Posted by M&M Guy

With plenty of room to spare!

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And. M&M, he'll have an extra one for you just in case you forgot yours!!!

rainmaker · #28 (**permalink**) Fri Aug 04, 2006, 11:33pm

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Originally Posted by Stan

Maybe this can shed some light on the subject.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/artic...12-000010.html

Stan

I don't know, Stan. That's pretty simplistic -- the article, I mean. But whether or not I agree on that subject, I'm not sure it's relevant to the topic of parents who scream at refs.

I know this thread was started in jest, but it is a serious issue, and one that affects more and more people. I think the main problem is that parents believe that "anything worth doing is worth being perfect at" and they really can't see that a healthy childhood includes a lot of mediocre performance. These are the same parents who scream at teachers for giving the kids B's instead of A's, and then scream at the kids for "slacking off." It's okay for kids to "slack off" and go to community college, and live in two-room apartments, and take the bus. There's no shame in not being Michael Jordan, or Lisa Leslie.