What's the best way for a coach to question a call?

[coachgbert]

Ask when it happens, at the next dead ball, some other time, like a time out?

I didn't ask for one particularly strange call and now my assistant coach, my own 12 year old daughter, won't let me live it down. It was the recent Christmas tourny game. We were inbounding the ball in a side line play, and hadn't released the ball yet. An official called a 3 second violation on us and turned the ball over to the other team. The defense was in the lane, my players were lined up at the sidelines waiting for the ball.

I didn't know what to say or how or when. The official just handed the ball to the other team and play resumed. I was shocked. Now my daughter thinks I have the capacity to be a wimpy coach and I should have at least pointed out the fact that the defense was in the lane not us. I didn't want to make anyone look bad, so I kept my mouth shut. These were two very new refs, that looked hardly older then my kids so I figured I'd cut them some slack. They both had quick whistles and called fouls left and right on both teams. It was an endless game because the clock stopped every 5 seconds, or so it seemed.

So when is it best to say something, or did I do okay and say nothing?

thanks,
Coach G