Fellow ref riding crew as spectator

[RedAndWhiteRef]

Originally Posted by BigCat

Your 24 and I'm assuming he is older and more entrenched as an official so I understand your reluctance to deal with him during the game...but if he's yelling or harassing you every time down you should have dealt with him. "Your a referee, you should know better." If he keeps up. Toss him.

Now it's easy to say that now. What should you do at this point? Notifying assigner is fine and association. At the next meeting I'd make a point to find him and tell him "saw you at game the other night. Surprised the hell out of me the way you, a fellow referee acted. Screaming... I didn't and don't appreciate it. "

You can stop there and see what he says. If he apologizes, up to you to accept or not.?If he's a jerk, tell him "I should have addressed it then I won't make that mistake again."

I wouldn't just leave it up to the association or assigner. He did it to you. He's likely a bully. Let him know politely, but very firmly that you did notice it and it isn't ok.

That's what I'd tell you. Good luck. (Take BNR with you just in case)

I get the impression that he thought I didn't know who he was so he thought he could just act a fool during the game and no one important (to him) would notice.

[BigCat]

Originally Posted by RedAndWhiteRef

I get the impression that he thought I didn't know who he was so he thought he could just act a fool during the game and no one important (to him) would notice.

Another option is to introduce yourself to him. I refereed a game you were at. Heard somebody screaming at us. Thought it was a crazy fan. Looked over and was surprised it was you, another referee...

See what your assigner or association says they think you should do. Or ask someone more experienced in that association. They know the lay of the land. I would like to see you call him out but that might not be the best thing for you to do.

[zm1283]

I would say something during the game directly to him, especially if it is prolonged and he is in close proximity like the story described.

If he didn't knock it off, I would think real hard about having him removed and would for sure contact the assigner and association board either way.

[Nevadaref]

Just call fouls on his kid.

[Adam]

Originally Posted by Nevadaref

Just call fouls on his kid.

Really?

[Nevadaref]

Originally Posted by Adam

Really?

Really.

[BigCat]

The game has come and gone already. Its what he should do now. If it was during the game i'd stop everything and let every person in gym hear me say not another word from you. Guy needs to be embarrassed. Then tossed.

Im not going to pick on his kid. Most of the time kids are mortified by their parents actions and wish they'd shut the hell up. I would make a point to embarrass the guy in front of everybody there.