Handling this coach:

[ballgame99]

You first have to establish that you are both talking about the same set of facts, (ie which player did what). I think it would have been good in this particular case for you to be part of the timeout conversation just to make sure his "facts" didn't change. If he is arguing that a defender in a lined space has to wait until the "hit" then I can see why you would be taken aback, because that's crazy.