Handling this coach:

[UNIgiantslayers]

Communication is definitely the weakest part of my game. Thanks for the input, I appreciate it. Sounds like I should have asked him first what he saw. It was tough during live play to do that, as I wanted to give him a quick answer but I should have been present during the timeout. Thanks again.

[packersowner]

First of all, I think its great that you are having a moment of self reflection and acknowledging what you can do better and this is a great use of the forum.

I know for me in the heat of a game flow, its sometime really hard to understand what a coach is asking about and 9x out of 10, I probably don't really get the full extent of what they are trying to ask because they are trying to spew it out as quickly as I am trying to listen to it. In your case, where the coach called a timeout to specifically discuss it, I think it really warrants taking a deep breath, slowing everything down, and making sure you hear the ins and outs of his concerns. Then like others have said, use the rule book to explain. But taking that pause and slowing things down, to me helps.

In fact, I have found that officiating has really helped to slow me down in my professional 8 to 5 job. Its allowed me to really see things from different viewpoints.

Hope this helps.

[BigT]

Originally Posted by UNIgiantslayers

Communication is definitely the weakest part of my game. Thanks for the input, I appreciate it. Sounds like I should have asked him first what he saw. It was tough during live play to do that, as I wanted to give him a quick answer but I should have been present during the timeout. Thanks again.

This was my mistake for a long time. I am a talker live ball is not the time.

Say something like I will come talk to you. Hold on coach for a TO. Just acknowledge it. I normally use 2 shot FT to go over and say coach what is your question or what did you see. Then say I will come back and answer you when I can.

It has helped my game so much.

If he starts screaming I raise the hand and say stop. Most coaches at that point know whats coming if they continue to act like that.

[BigT]

Originally Posted by UNIgiantslayers

Communication is definitely the weakest part of my game. Thanks for the input, I appreciate it. Sounds like I should have asked him first what he saw. It was tough during live play to do that, as I wanted to give him a quick answer but I should have been present during the timeout. Thanks again.

Verbal Judo has not only changed my life but made refereeing much easier.

You cant find a better book.

If you dont want to buy it then one massive lesson.

Dodge comments and never react to them and you win every time!

[Rich]

Originally Posted by BigT

Verbal Judo has not only changed my life but made refereeing much easier.

You cant find a better book.

If you dont want to buy it then one massive lesson.

Dodge comments and never react to them and you win every time!

Yup. I find myself hearing but not hearing more comments every season. 30 years in and I'm finally starting to see some progress.

[BigT]

Geez Rich that is a slow learning curve...haha

[Raymond]

I have a low tolerance for a coach who harps on a rule the he is getting wrong. I explain the rule one time, then we are going to move on.

[Welpe]

Originally Posted by BadNewsRef

I have a low tolerance for a coach who harps on a rule the he is getting wrong. I explain the rule one time, then we are going to move on.

I am the same way. Had that with a coach this week who wanted to insist there was "no continuation in high school." I'm not getting into an argument or debate with a coach, especially if he's going to insist on being that wrong.

Working the wings in football has really helped me tune out the noise.