Just a rough night...

[so cal lurker]

Originally Posted by jTheUmp

... down 10ish with about 2 minutes to go, visiting coach says to me "You know, I bet when I look at this film, you'll have called about 80% of the fouls... your partners aren't calling anything".

Was she right? Were you and your partners on different pages? To me, whether playing, coaching, or watching my kid, refs on different pages is maddening. I have watched games this season (to be fair, not many), where it was clear that one referee had a different threshhold for something. In one I recall, parents were going nuts about carrying -- to me it was obvious that what one ref thought was a carry (I think he called 4 or 5 of them) the other did not (he called none). Seen similar things with fouls where there appeared to be two different sets of criteria for fouls -- which makes it really hard for players to adjust. (As a coach, of any sport, I often told my players "that's what's been called all day, you have to adjust," but they can't do that when there is inconsistency between refs.

But on your question, I'd join the "ignore" camp, but also ponder after the game if there was something in the question that you can evaluate that might have hit on something that could make you a better ref/partner. (Mind you, I'm not saying there is, sometimes one ref is calling more fouls because that is just where they happen.)