I got thrown out of the game!!!

[Mregor]

I'm going to be the devil's advocate here. This is a rec league. They are not the same as interscholastic ball. Little if any ramifications for their actions. You need the right attitude going in. I think you made several mistakes.

Originally Posted by Sharpshooternes

That is his fourth foul and he goes off whining lol the way to the bench sits down and says, "call it both ways.." I naturally serve a cup of T and go about my business.

Rec league, I don't see this action as T. Easy to ignore and go on.

Originally Posted by Sharpshooternes

loudly to everyone else, "and this serves as everyone else's warning."

Really? Not professional at all. Nothing you said showed this was necessary. Just elevating the situation IMO.

Originally Posted by Sharpshooternes

Next play the kid on the bench is still mouthing off. I calmly told him, "I can give you another and you can leave if you want."

Don't engage with a bench. Tell coach to address it but don't address a bench player. T him if you need to but nothing good can come from engaging with bench other than coach.

Originally Posted by Sharpshooternes

We basically had the same conversation in the hall trying to pled my case but it was to no avail.

Why? Would you put shoes back on and go back for more punishment?

Rec leagues are where most of use earned our stripes at one time or another. I sure would never work for a league that didn't back officials but you need to expect difference from organized ball. Fortunately the league I worked was run by good officials and they always backed us. Rich, knows, he worked there in early 2000's with me. But to me, it sounds like you had a chip on your shoulder going in. Players don't want to be shown up any more than we do and confronting them and yelling at them sure isn't earning anyone's respect. You cant demand respect by trying to show up players and hide behind your stripes.