Seeking positive advise to deal with coaches

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Be very professional and be dispassionate. You always want to appear calm, collected, and under control. Rarely are comments personal... if they are or have crossed the line of accetability for you...
In HS go to the card.
IN USSF ask him/ her if their assistant is ready to take over because their day has ended.
Don't be flamboyant(sp) or overly dramatic. Just be matter of fact and to the point. DO NOT LET BEING YOUNG OR FEMALE BE AN EXCUSE FOR SOME JERK TO CHEW ON YOU. You are the official and you deserve the respect that uniform brings with it. In a JH basketball tourney a coach bumped my partner, told her she as no good, and starting cussing at her loudly after the game. He would never have done that to me or a male referee and amazingly stopped as soon as I stepped in.
If you need to appeal to a more veteran partner for assistance, do not hesitate. You can learn a lot from how they handle these guys and help you out at the same time. Hang in there. The girls who are playing need women referees as role models.