Looking for a balance

[rawhi1]

I had a middle school game score 45-44 with 10.8 seconds left. Team trailing just fouled had team leading shooting one in one. Trailing teams player was outside three point line but below free throw line extended. Player misses fIrst free throw and I call vioLation. Trailing teams coach comes out on floor my partner who is administering free throw points at him and go to explain the violation which doesn't occur that often. Coach doesn't want to listen I get cursed out and I T the head coach. I inform my partner what happened and try to get him to go back down and tell coach what's about to happen and put seatbelt on. One in one noone on line then technical foul shots and ball to shooting team. He just waves at me as in you handle it. To get the game done as expected I go back to talk to coach and I get the second barrel cursed out hand in face. I promptly and professionally toss the coach. He leaves after about a minute. Free throws shot his team loses by about 5 points thanks to him. My partner says after the game I should have passed on the first tech. I told him he didn't curse you out. I didn't mention that he could have helped me by keeping me from going back to talk to coach. All said we gonna make mistakes and make some tough calls. That's our job. When you feel a coach needs to be dealt with do it and have a good conscience. The word will get around that your not the one to try. Balance that with patience and common sense and you'll be ok.