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I would call the cops. If boyfriends were present, some of them may play in leagues and now they know what they can get away with when they see you. You are there to referee a basketball game. You don't have to take that and you certainly don't want to confront the person - take the macho route. Some states have laws about doing things like this to sports officials. The buck should stop with you. Your fellow Denver officials will appreciate it.
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In the OP you wrote: 1. "a player on the losing team is whining for a foul. I let her vent all the way back on defense." 2. "A couple trips up & down, shes still on the bench. I tell the table crew she has been ejected, she leaves or its a forfeit." 3. "I call the game, turn towards the table area, take two step toward my chair & BOOM I'm beamed in the head extremely hard by the basketball." 4. "my partner says it was the player that threw a two-handed overhead ball at me. I tell her she gets a pass only because shes a female!" Ask yourself: would you have let all of this happen if the players were male? With #4 the answer is obvious. Later on you said the incident reminded you to keep your eyes on the players - regardless of age/sex - at all times. Bottom line, the woman was out of line and should be punished in some way. What I'm saying is when we work games we don't like - for whatever reason - our guard can drop. I don't like working rec league or games with kids below H.S. age, so I don't. I don't like any negative feelings affecting my game/concentration. One other thing: I've found I have to be more aware of emotional outbursts when I'm officiating girls/women. This isn't a bias on my part: assignors (male and female) and female officials have told me over the years that women get upset at things guys don't. Heck, I've had girls' H.S. games where players have burst into tears because they didn't get a call.
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I never thought to expect that from a woman. But I guess thats why they say expect the unexpected. Lesson learned (for real this time) trust me! Quote:
I've heard that about female players over the years as well. I will call a held ball much quicker in womens games than mens.
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"Just The Facts, Ma'am" ...
You have omitted the most important information. Was she hot? Was she single? How can we make rational, relevant, and valid comments without all the facts?
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Haha she was a cutie... the only player wearing tight spandex pants instead of shorts. A bit overweight but nothing that your boy couldn't tone up with his ultimate workout plan for the ladies.
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Actually, that would have been Ron Garretson.
Exactly. They need to know, your assignor needs to know and she needs to be gone forever. If that means filing charges, fine. The next time, she might throw something besides a basketball or worse.
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Yeah, that's the ticket!
Snaqs, you're right about the retaliation... I was hot! My other sitch happened in a youth league, not the same facility. My assignors & the supervisor have spoken, so far she is suspended indefinitely. The supervisor also contacted the police, apparently they recommend that I go to the facility & file the report with the supervisor.
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I Don't Care If You're Hot, I Don't Care If You're Single ...
Hey tref: I think that you misunderstood me. I didn't ask if your were hot. I asked if she was hot.
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I'd probably file charges and have done so in the past before in my very first year officiating.
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The answer around these parts is a definite maybe. You just disqualified two elements of assault and/or terrorizing, but if you found the contact "offensive" you might still get an assault charge out of it. Either way it's definitely reportable and she can be inconvenienced by dealing with an investigation. Might help her act a little more responsibly to the next official.
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I can't say for sure whether I'd press charges, as I've never been in that situation, but the only thing I know is gender is irrelevant. I wouldn't get hung up on that.
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Battery is harmful or offensive touching. You don't have to be hurt, you don't have to feel threatened. And you can file a civil suit even if you don't swear out a criminal complaint.
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File charges
Any time an official is physically assaulted, charges should be filed. Even if it did not result in injury, criminal charges should be filed at once.
If you don't call law enforcement, that sends a clear message to every hothead in the community that physical abuse of a referee is tolerated. I don't want to be the next ref who gets whacked because somebody else got away with it. The question of whether this is a man or a woman is utterly meaningless. File the charges. Look at it another way; what would be the reaction if you showed up at this woman's place of business and physically assaulted her? Think she wouldn't file charges in a heartbeat? Also, you need to make a formal request to the league's governing body calling for substantial discipline against the guilty party. A full year's suspension, in my mind, should be a minimum. |
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Me personally, im probably not gonna file charges in that situation as long as the league issues its own punishment. soley because it was one act and not a continued assault. But Denver's finest are definately gonna escort out her and everyone who came with her.
but if the league did not issue a suspension or ban I wouldnt hesitate to file. nobody is getting a free shot at me and getting off scott free |
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