Hit AGAIN

[BayStateRef]

Originally Posted by tref

Judging by the accuracy & velocity of the hit I just knew it was one of the mouthy boyfriends that threw the ball. I make a b-line toward their bench area & my partner says it was the player that threw a two-handed overhead ball at me
I tell her she gets a pass only because shes a female!

So you had no idea who threw the ball...and you wrongly assumed it was a boyfriend. Then...you let a player get away with that act because "she's a female."

And now you wonder about pressing charges?

You really need to adjust your thinking. Your condescending attitude toward women's basketball comes through loud and clear.

I would deal with this within the league...not with outside police/court authority. If the league has no provision in place to punish conduct, then it needs to have one. And this would be a good place to start: an immediate suspension from all league activity for the rest of this season.

If this were a high school game in Massachusetts, the player would be suspended from all sports activity for one year (not just the sport in which the assault occurred.) If this were a men's league in which I worked, the player would be gone for the season.

[tref]

Originally Posted by BayStateRef

So you had no idea who threw the ball...and you wrongly assumed it was a boyfriend. Then...you let a player get away with that act because "she's a female."

And now you wonder about pressing charges?

You really need to adjust your thinking. Your condescending attitude toward women's basketball comes through loud and clear.

Would you prefer that I socked the big girl up as I would if it were a dude??
So you're a wimmens official? If so, I didnt mean to offend you & what you do.
But no, I do not love that brand of basketball & its within my rights not to!

Originally Posted by BayStateRef

I would deal with this within the league...not with outside police/court authority. If the league has no provision in place to punish conduct, then it needs to have one. And this would be a good place to start: an immediate suspension from all league activity for the rest of this season..

Since it was win or go home, it was the rest of the season

Originally Posted by BayStateRef

If this were a high school game in Massachusetts, the player would be suspended from all sports activity for one year (not just the sport in which the assault occurred.) If this were a men's league in which I worked, the player would be gone for the season.

Again, her season ended last night...

I have an email in to my assignor now I will wait to see whats what.

[rockyroad]

Originally Posted by tref

Since it was win or go home, it was the rest of the season

Doesn't matter that it was the last game of this season...follow through with the City of Denver and see that she gets suspended for a year or for lifetime...

[JRutledge]

I would file charges. It will stop all that stuff and stop doing that league if the league supervisors do not take any action. I would not rely on just the league supervisors as they are motivated by money and letting things not ruffle the league than doing the right thing.

Peace

[tref]

Originally Posted by rockyroad

Doesn't matter that it was the last game of this season...follow through with the City of Denver and see that she gets suspended for a year or for lifetime...

Yup, will do.
Say they do ban her for a year or even life (which i think is a bit much) what about when I or another official sees her in the City of Lakewood or Glendale & she pulls this stunt again?
*leaning toward pressing charges*

Just curious if anybody that replied has read the article in RM?

[tomegun]

I would call the cops. If boyfriends were present, some of them may play in leagues and now they know what they can get away with when they see you. You are there to referee a basketball game. You don't have to take that and you certainly don't want to confront the person - take the macho route. Some states have laws about doing things like this to sports officials. The buck should stop with you. Your fellow Denver officials will appreciate it.

[BktBallRef]

Originally Posted by tref

I went Darell Garretson on her, "Whack, GET OUT!"

Actually, that would have been Ron Garretson.

Originally Posted by rockyroad

Doesn't matter that it was the last game of this season...follow through with the City of Denver and see that she gets suspended for a year or for lifetime...

Exactly. They need to know, your assignor needs to know and she needs to be gone forever. If that means filing charges, fine. The next time, she might throw something besides a basketball or worse.

[Adam]

1. Seems like the problem is systemic in this league. Might be time to evaluate whether you've got enough support from the league to continue working their games.

2. I wouldn't recommend socking any player of either gender here. Defending yourself physically is one thing, retaliation is another issue altogether.

3. That's assault, but whether you press charges is up to you. I'm not sure I would, but I'd certainly talk to some of my friends in blue.

[tref]

Originally Posted by BktBallRef

Actually, that would have been Ron Garretson.

Yeah, that's the ticket!


Snaqs, you're right about the retaliation... I was hot!
My other sitch happened in a youth league, not the same facility. My assignors & the supervisor have spoken, so far she is suspended indefinitely. The supervisor also contacted the police, apparently they recommend that I go to the facility & file the report with the supervisor.

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by tref

I was hot!

Hey tref: I think that you misunderstood me. I didn't ask if your were hot. I asked if she was hot.

[APG]

I'd probably file charges and have done so in the past before in my very first year officiating.

[JetMetFan]

Originally Posted by BayStateRef

So you had no idea who threw the ball...and you wrongly assumed it was a boyfriend. Then...you let a player get away with that act because "she's a female."

And now you wonder about pressing charges?

You really need to adjust your thinking. Your condescending attitude toward women's basketball comes through loud and clear.

Originally Posted by tref

Would you prefer that I socked the big girl up as I would if it were a dude??
So you're a wimmens official? If so, I didnt mean to offend you & what you do.
But no, I do not love that brand of basketball & its within my rights not to!

Tref, I'm going to go a step further based on your reaction to BSR's comments: If you don't like women's basketball - for whatever reason - avoid doing those games. I'm not just saying this as an NCAAW official (I still work boys' high school). I'm saying this because it sounds as though you handled the discipline issue differently because the players were female, at least in this case.

In the OP you wrote:

1. "a player on the losing team is whining for a foul. I let her vent all the way back on defense."
2. "A couple trips up & down, shes still on the bench. I tell the table crew she has been ejected, she leaves or its a forfeit."
3. "I call the game, turn towards the table area, take two step toward my chair & BOOM I'm beamed in the head extremely hard by the basketball."
4. "my partner says it was the player that threw a two-handed overhead ball at me. I tell her she gets a pass only because shes a female!"

Ask yourself: would you have let all of this happen if the players were male? With #4 the answer is obvious. Later on you said the incident reminded you to keep your eyes on the players - regardless of age/sex - at all times.

Bottom line, the woman was out of line and should be punished in some way. What I'm saying is when we work games we don't like - for whatever reason - our guard can drop. I don't like working rec league or games with kids below H.S. age, so I don't. I don't like any negative feelings affecting my game/concentration.

One other thing: I've found I have to be more aware of emotional outbursts when I'm officiating girls/women. This isn't a bias on my part: assignors (male and female) and female officials have told me over the years that women get upset at things guys don't. Heck, I've had girls' H.S. games where players have burst into tears because they didn't get a call.

[tref]

Originally Posted by JetMetFan

Tref, I'm going to go a step further based on your reaction to BSR's comments: If you don't like women's basketball - for whatever reason - avoid doing those games. I'm not just saying this as an NCAAW official (I still work boys' high school). I'm saying this because it sounds as though you handled the discipline issue differently because the players were female, at least in this case.

Please believe me, I do try to avoid their games as much as possible!! That's why I only tryout & currently work higher levels on the mens side. At this particular gym they run mens & womens on two courts on the same night. I was scheduled for mens every Tuesday except this one as everybody has to work at least once on the womens side.

In the OP you wrote:

Originally Posted by JetMetFan

1. "a player on the losing team is whining for a foul. I let her vent all the way back on defense."
2. "A couple trips up & down, shes still on the bench. I tell the table crew she has been ejected, she leaves or its a forfeit."
3. "I call the game, turn towards the table area, take two step toward my chair & BOOM I'm beamed in the head extremely hard by the basketball."
4. "my partner says it was the player that threw a two-handed overhead ball at me. I tell her she gets a pass only because shes a female!"

Ask yourself: would you have let all of this happen if the players were male? .

Off-season yes, I allow males or females to whine on a no call as long as its not disrespectful or laced with cuss words. If we go to the other end & back & they are still whining I usually say "you made your point 5 minutes ago, lets move on." If that doesnt end it, then I use the tools we are given.
Warn, whack, toss...

Originally Posted by JetMetFan

With #4 the answer is obvious. Later on you said the incident reminded you to keep your eyes on the players - regardless of age/sex - at all times.

Nah, it didnt remind me, it taught me not to underestimate anybody anymore.
I never thought to expect that from a woman. But I guess thats why they say expect the unexpected.
Lesson learned (for real this time) trust me!

Originally Posted by JetMetFan

Bottom line, the woman was out of line and should be punished in some way. What I'm saying is when we work games we don't like - for whatever reason - our guard can drop. I don't like working rec league or games with kids below H.S. age, so I don't. I don't like any negative feelings affecting my game/concentration.

One other thing: I've found I have to be more aware of emotional outbursts when I'm officiating girls/women. This isn't a bias on my part: assignors (male and female) and female officials have told me over the years that women get upset at things guys don't. Heck, I've had girls' H.S. games where players have burst into tears because they didn't get a call.

True story! I looked forward to working the games though, I embrace working playoff/final four situations at any level with any gender. All the marbles are on the table & it can be quite exciting as well as competitive.
I've heard that about female players over the years as well. I will call a held ball much quicker in womens games than mens.