Hot dog player talking

[Adam]

Originally Posted by twocentsworth

Just remember that you "promote what you permit".....

You must be responding to someone else, because I didn't say anything about permitting or ignoring the behavior.

As Rich noted, you can tell them the behavior isn't acceptable without backing yourself into a corner by threatening the coach.

[Loudwhistle2]

I talk to both most of the time, what you did is very common and appropriate for the situation described.

[DesMoines]

Last regular season varsity assignment of the year. This is the third time I've had the team this year (twice at home, once on the road). Early in fourth and a player is grousing at me after I call the foul on him (just like we're discussing above) and so, after reporting, I turn to his coach and let him know he needs to talk to #45, because it's not appropriate.

Coach's response to me (in referring to his player): He's right. That other kid's been jacking him around the whole game.

Your move ... then I'll tell you what I did.

[Rich]

Originally Posted by DesMoines

Last regular season varsity assignment of the year. This is the third time I've had the team this year (twice at home, once on the road). Early in fourth and a player is grousing at me after I call the foul on him (just like we're discussing above) and so, after reporting, I turn to his coach and let him know he needs to talk to #45, because it's not appropriate.

Coach's response to me (in referring to his player): He's right. That other kid's been jacking him around the whole game.

Your move ... then I'll tell you what I did.

I'd probably whack the player and then tell the coach I gave him a chance to take care of it.

[Loudwhistle2]

Originally Posted by DesMoines

Last regular season varsity assignment of the year. This is the third time I've had the team this year (twice at home, once on the road). Early in fourth and a player is grousing at me after I call the foul on him (just like we're discussing above) and so, after reporting, I turn to his coach and let him know he needs to talk to #45, because it's not appropriate.

Coach's response to me (in referring to his player): He's right. That other kid's been jacking him around the whole game.

Your move ... then I'll tell you what I did.

This is exactly one of the main reasons I don't talk to the coach about a player unless they ask me. When I talk to a player about their comments, the whole gym can see that it is not a happy chat and I mean business! Even the coach can tell that storm clouds are brewing.

[rockyroad]

Originally Posted by DesMoines

Coach's response to me (in referring to his player): He's right. That other kid's been jacking him around the whole game.

Me: "Coach, I will watch for that. In the meantime, you can take care of your player or I can. It's up to you."

And then walk away from him/her.

If coach deals with that kid, then we are ok. If coach doesn't, then the next time that player complains to anyone on the crew, I will assess the T.

[M&M Guy]

Originally Posted by rockyroad

me: "coach, i will watch for that. In the meantime, you can take care of your player or i can. It's up to you."

and then walk away from him/her.

If coach deals with that kid, then we are ok. If coach doesn't, then the next time that player complains to anyone on the crew, i will assess the t.

+1

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by rockyroad

"Coach, I will watch for that. In the meantime, you can take care of your player or I can. It's up to you." And then walk away from him/her.

Wow. What a rational, thoughtful, and appropriate response. Are you sure that you wanted to post it here on the Forum? I don't think that such responses are allowed here, especially from tree hugging, medical marijuana smoking, hippies from the Pacific Northwest.

[rockyroad]

Originally Posted by BillyMac

Wow. What a rational, thoughtful, and appropriate response. Are you sure that you wanted to post it here on the Forum? I don't think that such responses are allowed here, especially from tree hugging, medical marijuana smoking, hippies from the Pacific Northwest.

Them's fighting words, Billy!

I had to check with snaqs, JAR and bbr first to make sure the "group" was in agreement with my post.

[DesMoines]

Coach got a one-hand stop sign. "I hear you, but he's done talking. That's enough." ... and then I was on my way to the other end of the floor.

I have to think the longer I do this, the more coaches I'll see and remember which ones to address this kind of situation with and which ones to just talk to their players instead. Maybe it's different every game. Would love to continue to hear your thoughts.

For the record, we didn't hear a peep out of either of them the rest of the game: coach or player.

[BillyMac]

Originally Posted by rockyroad

Them's fighting words, Billy!

Exactly which part of my post do you have a problem: Tree Hugging, Medical Marijuana Smoking, or Hippies?

Pick one and I'll apologize.

Also, Happy Birthday tomorrow.

[Mark Padgett]

Originally Posted by BillyMac

..... especially from tree hugging, medical marijuana smoking, hippies from the Pacific Northwest.

You just described every member of the Oregon legislature.

[tomegun]

I don't use some of the verbiage that has been mentioned, but every official is different and I think our normal personalities should come out. I always use the Patrick Swayze approach: Be nice, until its time not be nice.

I will use: "Coach, can you please ask number...", "Coach, please don't yell across the floor at my partner", "Coach, please put your arms down"

After that, they are about to deal with the "T" in Tomegun. Ironically, I probably gave less Ts this year than in several past years. My crew, on the other hand, was giving them out like candy on Halloween.

Yes, that is a Roadhouse reference.

[twocentsworth]

Originally Posted by rockyroad

Me: "Coach, I will watch for that. In the meantime, you can take care of your player or I can. It's up to you."

And then walk away from him/her.

If coach deals with that kid, then we are ok. If coach doesn't, then the next time that player complains to anyone on the crew, I will assess the T.

Be careful....RichMSN and Snaqwells with think you're "backing yourself into a corner" if you do that....

[Rich]

Originally Posted by twocentsworth

Be careful....RichMSN and Snaqwells with think you're "backing yourself into a corner" if you do that....

Nope. I'm fine with this verbiage. No direct threat.