Unapproachable Coach vs. Unapproachable Ref

[utahkarakita]

At camps or meetings, whenever we're reminded by the board or evaulators that coaches' biggest complaints are referees being "unapproachable" I always start thinking.

Do coaches realize how unapproachable they make themselves sometimes? I'm certainly not a master of communication, but generally have no problems stepping aside and speaking with a coach, answering a question, or even listening to a rational complaint every now and then.

But, far too often there's the coach who isn't really interested in "communicating" at all. He just wants to try and influence your game, vent, yell, or whatever. Are these the same ones that then complain about referees not talking to them?

In my mind, the problem in coach-referee communication usually resides with the one wearing a tie. Oh well, that must be why they call it a thankless job