Gave my first ever T last night...

[Berkut]

Originally Posted by Scrapper1

That's possible. I'm pretty comfortable with my tolerance level. I give a few T's a season, but I'm not generally looking for them.

I hope none of us are looking for them.

I feel like I just got slapped on the wrist or something. For me, "that's enough" does not equal "one more word and it's a T". It's basically a less-than-subtle message to back off. I would rather give the coach a chance to back off than give the T. If he/she decides not to back down, then it'll be clear why they get the T.

I guess for me "That's enough" means just that - enough. Not "That is almost enough, go ahead and repeat yourself one more time but no more!".

I mean, I just GAVE him the chance to back off, didn't I? By saying "Thats enough" rather than just banging him?

I am sure there is more than one "right" answer here, so I don't want to suggest that I am certainly right - but I guess I just don't understand the idea that my job is to try to convince a coach to NOT get himself the T, and provide him more than one opportunity to go back to coaching. I wonder if we don't just encourage the same behavior since they tend to know we don't REALLY mean it when we say "That's enough".

I am relatively new to this (just a few years experience at the JV level), so perhaps as I do this more I will become more tolerant?