Partner takes care of jerk fanboy

[Mark Padgett]

Originally Posted by bgtg19

What the fan was doing was wrong; no question about it. And -- while this conclusion is not quite as clear -- I think your partner was wrong, too. What he did was designed to demean another human being. Is that desire understandable? Yes. Was the response "deserved" in that it was brought on by the fan's behavior? Perhaps.

My first reaction to reading the account was to smile and appreciate your partner's courage (although perhaps not wisdom) in putting the guy in his place. But my more reflective reaction is that your partner's conduct is not to be condoned. Treating others the way we wish to be treated is easy when others treat us nicely. Treating others the way we wish to be treated, even when we are not being treated nicely, is the right thing to do (even if it's not easy).

Sorry - my personal philosophy and yours seem to be worlds apart. I believe in:

A. What's good for the goose is good for the gander
B. An eye for an eye
C. If you can dish it out, you also have to be able to take it
D. You have to stand up to bullies
E. All of the above

Correct answer: E

Remember - appeasement didn't work for the British before WWII.

[canuckrefguy]

Originally Posted by Mark Padgett

Sorry - my personal philosophy and yours seem to be worlds apart. I believe in:

A. What's good for the goose is good for the gander
B. An eye for an eye
C. If you can dish it out, you also have to be able to take it
D. You have to stand up to bullies
E. All of the above

Correct answer: E

Remember - appeasement didn't work for the British before WWII.

We're supposed to be above the crap.

Not saying I didn't get a chuckle out of it. Or that I haven't felt like doing that myself. But unless the guy was being relentlessly belligerent, profane, or getting personal, I don't see why being a sarcastic a$$ in return is appropriate.

BTW - it's true that appeasement didn't work, but brinkmanship was almost as disastrous 30 years later.

[Mark Padgett]

Originally Posted by canuckrefguy

We're supposed to be above the crap.

Speak for yourself, Sparky. Some misanthrope insults me, they're gonna get it back with both barrels. In fact, in my state I am legally obligated to inform anyone who gets sarcastic with me that I am a professional with a fifth-degree black belt in sarcasm and they proceed at their own risk.

Sheesh - some of their comments tick me off almost as much as when I get my opera cape snagged on some homeless person's junk.

[canuckrefguy]

Originally Posted by Mark Padgett

Speak for yourself, Sparky. Some misanthrope insults me, they're gonna get it back with both barrels. In fact, in my state I am legally obligated to inform anyone who gets sarcastic with me that I am a professional with a fifth-degree black belt in sarcasm and they proceed at their own risk.

Okay, good for you.

I guess.

[mbyron]

Originally Posted by Mark Padgett

Sorry - my personal philosophy and yours seem to be worlds apart. I believe in:

A. What's good for the goose is good for the gander
B. An eye for an eye
C. If you can dish it out, you also have to be able to take it
D. You have to stand up to bullies
E. All of the above

Mark, I'm sure you'll want to know that the correct expression is: "What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander."

[rainmaker]

Originally Posted by bgtg19

What the fan was doing was wrong; no question about it. And -- while this conclusion is not quite as clear -- I think your partner was wrong, too. What he did was designed to demean another human being. Is that desire understandable? Yes. Was the response "deserved" in that it was brought on by the fan's behavior? Perhaps.

My first reaction to reading the account was to smile and appreciate your partner's courage (although perhaps not wisdom) in putting the guy in his place. But my more reflective reaction is that your partner's conduct is not to be condoned. Treating others the way we wish to be treated is easy when others treat us nicely. Treating others the way we wish to be treated, even when we are not being treated nicely, is the right thing to do (even if it's not easy).

Sheez, bgtg, what makes you think that taking the high road is something anyone respects or appreciates? Just say whatever happens to pop into your head, and the hell with anyone's feelings. THat's their own problem, not yours. Especially people who you don't like. If you want to be nice, reffing isn't for you.

[Mark Padgett]

Originally Posted by rainmaker

Sheez, bgtg, what makes you think that taking the high road is something anyone respects or appreciates? Just say whatever happens to pop into your head, and the hell with anyone's feelings. THat's their own problem, not yours. Especially people who you don't like. If you want to be nice, reffing isn't for you.

That's one of the things I like about Juulie - she's got my back. Now, if I can just get her to return it 'cause it's really getting windy inside my rib cage.

[Adam]

I think there's some benefit to someone like this guy actually getting to taste his own medicine.

And my guess is he'll think twice before ridiculing officials in the future.

[Mark Padgett]

Originally Posted by Snaqwells

And my guess is he'll think twice before ridiculing officials in the future.

Thank you. I think that probably was the point. Plus, of course, having some fun.

[ChrisSportsFan]

Originally Posted by Snaqwells

I think there's some benefit to someone like this guy actually getting to taste his own medicine.

And my guess is he'll think twice before ridiculing officials in the future.

and so will everyone else in the stands who was thinking about joining in with him.

[Brad]

It's stories like this that brighten my day!